Mr. Nhung and Mrs. Thanh's family gathers together on weekends.
Mr. Nguyen Dinh Nhung and Mrs. Hoang Thi Thanh (Area 22, Phu Loi Ward, Can Tho City) have been together for nearly 40 years. They currently live with their son, daughter-in-law, and two grandchildren. Each generation is born and raised in different environments and circumstances, so differences in thinking, methods, and actions are inevitable.
According to Mr. Nhung, to bridge the generation gap and maintain harmony and happiness in the home, mutual respect and understanding are crucial. "We always advise our children and grandchildren to respect elders. We also always listen to our children and grandchildren and try to resolve family issues," Mr. Nhung shared.
Thanks to living with his parents, Nguyen Tuan Anh, the son of Mr. and Mrs. Nhung, receives their support in childcare, allowing him and his wife to focus on their work and family economic development. "My wife and I both work, and without our parents' help in taking care of the children, it would be very difficult," Tuan Anh shared.
As a daughter-in-law in the family, Ms. Phung Thi Nguyen believes that the most valuable thing about living with multiple generations is that children grow up surrounded by love and affection. She shared: "From a young age, the children have been taught politeness and consideration for others by their grandparents. When their parents are busy, the grandparents take over the care and education of the children very thoughtfully. That is something irreplaceable."
It's not just Mr. Nhung's family; many other families are also preserving intergenerational bonds in their own ways. Mrs. Vo Thi Lam, over 70 years old, whose husband passed away more than three years ago, lives with her unmarried daughter and her son and his wife in Area 12, Soc Trang Ward.
Mr. Tran Kim Quoc, Mrs. Lam's son, shared: "Living in a large family, I chose to clearly divide responsibilities to avoid putting pressure on anyone. My elderly mother helps with housework and taking care of the grandchildren. My sister has her own job but has time to help with cooking. My wife and I focus on developing our finances. Family expenses are transparently agreed upon, so everything goes very well. My children love their aunt and grandmother very much."
The family of Mr. Le Minh Hieu and Mrs. Ta Thi Hong, residing in Ngoc To commune, lives with their daughter and her husband. To maintain family harmony, Mrs. Hong emphasizes preserving shared routines. Despite the children and grandchildren's busy schedules, the whole family maintains the habit of having dinner together and meeting up on weekends. "Family meals are very important. It's a time for everyone to catch up, share stories about their day, and understand each other better," Mrs. Hong shared.
According to Ms. Ly Thi Dao, a Master of Psychology and head of the School Counseling Department at the Pedagogical Practice School, it's inevitable that generations living under the same roof will have differences in thinking and lifestyles. However, if they know how to listen and adjust, these differences can become opportunities for family members to understand each other better. Multigenerational families, if harmonized well, will be an ideal environment for children to grow up surrounded by both parents and grandparents, while gradually absorbing traditional values. Such homes will always be places that family members look forward to returning to, to feel peace and abundant love.
Text and photos: THANH TAM
Source: https://baocantho.com.vn/giu-lua-yeu-thuong-trong-mai-nha-nhieu-the-he-a205266.html
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