My wife and her sister are identical twins. They look exactly the same but their personalities, interests, and lifestyles are different. After many years of being a son-in-law, I feel more and more confused about my hidden feelings.
Over the years, I have grown to love my wife more and more deeply. When I first entered my wife's family, at first I thought that my affection for her was very natural and harmless. She was just like my wife, and I loved my wife, so I thought it was understandable that I liked and had sympathy for her.
But as time went on, I noticed things were getting worse. My wife had given birth twice and was no longer in the ideal shape she had been in when we first met. She was still single and looked younger than her age.
She is like the younger version of my wife that I always miss and regret (Illustration: iStock).
There were times when my mind wandered to her. She reminded me of my wife back then, when we were younger, not yet exhausted by the hustle and bustle of life and the worries of children. The secret affection I had for her seemed to have been revealed. Because my wife began to allude to her more in front of me, with resentment and anger.
Once, my wife even asked me directly if I really loved her sister. When we argued, there were times when she would suddenly mention her sister and couldn't hide her jealousy. When she calmed down, we both felt embarrassed and awkward.
After many years of marriage, it is necessary to accept that my wife and I are no longer as fresh and attractive as we were in the beginning. Time and family life have many impacts on my wife. I understand that she has had to sacrifice a lot for me and for the children.
Just by putting the two of them next to each other, everyone will understand how much life as a wife and mother has changed her. I love my wife very much, understand, sympathize and always try to make it up to her.
But instinct was another matter, I still found myself attracted to her. While my wife's appearance had changed, she remained the same. Time seemed unable to touch her. Meanwhile, my wife had "changed her personality", becoming an unattractive woman since when. Not only had her appearance changed, she also had the disease of talking too much and talking too long.
She constantly nags at her husband, gets angry at her children, sometimes just over trivial matters, causing her to be very frustrated and annoyed. As for her, she is still an attractive single woman, she often stays silent and just smiles.
I tried to get closer to my wife, to increase intimacy with her so that I could overcome the wanderings and lost thoughts and emotions. I hoped that by doing so, I would be more attached to my wife, and the feelings for my sister-in-law would disappear. But in fact, "warming up" the marriage was not easy, both my wife and I struggled.
The more I do that, the more I am haunted by her. She is like a younger version of my wife that I always miss and regret. My wife and I can never go back to that youth, just like I can never get close to her. A feeling of helplessness and anxiety makes me even more haunted.
Her image is like a mirror reflecting the beautiful past that I can only stand from afar, admire, and sigh. The more I can't get closer, the more my mind wanders... towards her.
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