Children need to run and play in a suitable space - Illustration: CONG TRIEU
"If you are noisy, take me home."
The countless real-life stories of children screaming and being too loud reported by readers in the comments show that this is very common:
- I run a hotel. The common situation is that parents let their children run around screaming in the hallway, knock on other rooms' doors, and press the elevator to go up and down. There are even scenes where parents lock the door in the room and let their children do whatever they want outside. How frustrating!
- When the COVID-19 pandemic first started, schools were closed, my colleague didn't have time to send her child to school, so she brought her young child to work with her. When she got in the elevator, the child pressed all the buttons on the control panel. The mother let him do it. From the 1st to the 20th floor, the elevator stopped at each floor even though no one was getting in or out.
- I'm the type of person who can do anything and doesn't mind, but recently when I go to a coffee shop and see kids climbing on the tables and screaming, it's really annoying.
Most opinions agree that the phrase "Children are just children" cannot be used as an excuse for children being noisy in public places.
"Children are like a blank sheet of paper, educating and training them is the responsibility and duty of the parents, followed by the school environment," a reader expressed his opinion.
Dieu Huong account also frankly quoted: " Children, they don't know anything , a saying that shows the failure of parents'education ".
Many readers expressed disagreement with the opinion of reader Nguyen Ngoc An: "Children are still young and have not yet formed their personalities. If you scold them, they will only be quiet for a while. Children's nature is to be hyperactive. From 14-15 years old and up, children will understand and change."
Account andynguyen responded: " I think adults who sing loudly and disturb the neighbors probably had their parents let them freely disturb others when they were young.
There is no way to change yourself without being taught. Children 6 years old and up have already formed their personalities, which are very difficult to change later. So if children do something wrong, it is the adults' fault. Adults think like you, so the world around them is as noisy as it is now."
Children's civilization begins with adults.
Parents need to teach their children how to behave and discipline them every day - Illustration: QUANG DINH
Readers have suggested solutions to the problem of noisy children, but all of them come from the fact that parents must discipline and teach their children every day. Parents themselves must be role models for their children.
Account Nguyen Giang commented: "Civilized and conscious parents will teach their children to be civilized. On the contrary, parents who do not have civilized consciousness will not understand that it is necessary to teach their children to behave civilly in public, and to discipline them every day."
However, there are also opinions that it is normal for children to be hyperactive and that city children are disadvantaged because of the lack of playgrounds: "There will be a stage when children will bite things, a stage when they will grasp and throw things, a stage when children like to make sounds to listen to. There should be pacifiers for children to bite, plastic balls and teddy bears for children to play with...
In our country, there are not enough safe playgrounds and parks for children to run around and play freely. Blaming the children is not good. Living in the city is really boring, and renting a house means four walls. Space is not like before. However, don't compare the screams of children to karaoke speakers. It's not that bad."
Not opposing the view that "active children should be noisy", but many readers point out how they themselves behave so that their children can be noisy in the right place, and understand what happens when children are noisy in the wrong place.
- Children need an environment to develop freely. Therefore, parents need to choose a suitable environment to bring their children to, not use that as an excuse and let their children scream in public .
- I also have two naughty kids but I'm also on the side of raising civilized children from a young age . If you can't teach your children, then let them stay at home . Don't affect others.
- I'm on the no-shouting side . Although it's hard, I always remind my two children to speak softly enough to be heard in public.
- Children should be educated from a young age . My child is 3 years old, although I still have to remind him, he understands and listens .
- When my child was about 5-6 months old , when we went to a restaurant and he was hungry and cried, my husband had to carry him to the car and wait for me to pay and go home quickly. He always reminded me not to ... Don't be loud or run around if it's not a playground.
Many readers also share the same opinion that they are very sympathetic to children's hyperactivity, not too strict with them. But it is worth mentioning that many parents ignore and ignore when their children bother others or they themselves make just as much noise.
"There are even parents who let their children eat breakfast while watching TikTok. Then if the children eat slowly, they yell and make noise in the restaurant," commented Nguyen Thanh Lich.
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