Plan your Tet celebrations skillfully.
For Vietnamese people, Tet Nguyen Dan (Lunar New Year) is the most important and meaningful occasion of the year, associated with the traditional cultural rituals and customs of the nation. Tet is also a time for family reunions, where people gather together to welcome a new year of peace and joy. However, for many families, the question of where to celebrate Tet remains a concern every time the holiday approaches. Many couples argue and have strained relationships because they haven't agreed on a location for the Tet celebration.
As a young couple in their late 20s living and working in Ho Chi Minh City, Phuong Nam (27 years old) and My Linh (24 years old) have clear views and perspectives on marriage. “We are young, so when we got married, we were just starting to get acquainted with new responsibilities and duties, including how to interact with and treat each other's families. This Tet (Lunar New Year) is our first Tet as husband and wife, so we plan to visit each family for a few days, helping and shopping equally for both sides, to avoid putting either side at a disadvantage,” My Linh shared. According to My Linh, nurturing a lasting marriage requires mutual agreement and respect between husband and wife in all matters, including those related to Tet.
As a young couple, Nguyen Kim Duyen (26 years old, from Dong Nai province) and her husband, who hails from Hanoi, have a different way of celebrating Tet (Lunar New Year). Kim Duyen and her husband's hometowns are more than a thousand kilometers apart, making it challenging to reconcile both sides. Ultimately, they agreed to return to their respective hometowns and then celebrate Tet together. Kim Duyen said: "To be honest, this decision initially faced opposition from both families. However, after my husband and I explained our feelings and persistently persuaded them, our parents finally agreed to our wish. My husband and I both want to celebrate Tet with our parents because they are getting older, and each Tet is precious to them."
Modern perspectives of young people
As Tet (Vietnamese Lunar New Year) approaches, social media is flooded with posts about the anxieties and concerns of young people, such as facing questions about their salaries, pressure to get married, and the matter of giving Tet gifts to their families. In particular, the question of whether to celebrate Tet at the husband's or wife's family home is a topic that attracts much attention, even among single young people. Under a post seeking opinions on celebrating Tet in one's hometown, a comment from Tuan Tran (25 years old, from Hung Yen , living and working in Hanoi) received much agreement: “My girlfriend and I have had a frank discussion about how we will celebrate Tet in our hometowns in the future. We think that celebrating Tet at one of our families' homes each year, alternating between both sides, is best. The important thing is that both of us are happy and joyful during Tet.”
Unlike previous generations, young couples today believe that it's necessary to agree on various aspects of married life before committing to a long-term relationship, and this includes how and where to celebrate Tet (Vietnamese New Year). Tuan Tran expressed: "Even though we haven't gotten married yet, when we're serious about the relationship, I think discussing sensitive issues like finances, housing, and children from the beginning is essential. For example, regarding celebrating Tet, if everyone has different opinions and isn't happy or content, it can easily lead to a rift later." Agreeing with this sentiment, many young people commented that it's important to clearly define desires before marriage to avoid disagreements and regrettable arguments later on.
How to celebrate Tet (Lunar New Year) is not something that can be right or wrong. Each family and each couple has different circumstances, conditions, as well as their own views and desires about life. Whether they decide to celebrate Tet at their paternal or maternal grandparents' home, or anywhere else, when the family is harmonious and happy, Tet is always complete. Ultimately, the most important thing during the Lunar New Year is to share joyful moments together, welcoming a new year filled with peace and love.
Source: https://www.sggp.org.vn/chuyen-tet-noi-tet-ngoai-post837665.html
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