Lessons from wedding rings

At times, I secretly wished my husband and I had discussed the meaning of the rings before the wedding. If we had, perhaps we could have saved some money. We only bought rings that fit our budget, but the price was still significant for us at the time.

Nearly three decades ago, on a cool September morning in my hometown, my friends and family gathered in a circle. As the theme music played, they walked around a basket woven from bark, inside which were two rings, one for me and one for him.

Back then, our wedding caused a sensation in the village because of its incredibly unique format. I was so happy to see all the people I loved standing close to me to bless our love. That moment was truly sacred.

I remember many details of the wedding, but later, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't remember when I put the ring on his finger.

One evening, my husband was turning the ring back and forth on his finger, his tone half-joking, half-serious:

Maybe we should have a family meeting to discuss this, shall we?

Initially, he wore the ring throughout our honeymoon, but as soon as he returned to work, the ring wasn't so important anymore. Even though we proactively chose the simplest and lightest ring possible, it still felt cumbersome and uncomfortable while working. Actually, we never discussed when to wear the ring and when not to; it was simply a practical choice.

I noticed he took his ring off for work and rarely wore it again. For the first few months after the wedding, the ring only appeared on evenings when we went out and met up with friends. But soon after, he forgot to wear it altogether, and I forgot too, so I couldn't blame him.

Now, I can't remember the last time he wore the ring, and it doesn't even bother me anymore. It turns out, wearing rings isn't a tradition that suits him, and I agree with that.

Our love and marriage don't need formal proof; what we've built together speaks for itself.

Actually, my parents don't wear their wedding rings anymore. My father lost his wedding ring after taking it off to chop wood.

After all these years, my parents are still happily together. Sometimes, I secretly wish my husband and I had discussed the meaning of our rings before our wedding.

If that were the case, perhaps we could have saved some money. We only bought the rings within our budget, but the price was still quite significant for us at the time.

"Wearing rings isn't always a good idea, ma'am," a jeweler blurted out to me. He explained that wearing rings constantly isn't good for your skin and advised me to take them off more often.

His words made me incredibly happy. There were times when, due to the changes in my body after giving birth to two children, I couldn't wear my rings anymore.

My wife and I have changed the size of our wedding rings twice, which cost us quite a bit of money, and then, without saying a word to each other, we both put our "treasures" away in the drawer. At times like that, my wife and I just look at each other and smile awkwardly.

My daughter is getting married in a few months. The story about the ring made it easy for me to make a decision: let them decide what to do.

Over the past decades, my wife and I have been able to surpass societal expectations in terms of how we organized our wedding, our wedding rings, and in determining what truly suits us.

From the wedding ring, we moved on to other important things in our marriage. For example, occasionally sleeping in separate beds for comfort or traveling alone...

I think my children's weddings would have been wonderful if those discoveries had come sooner, without them having to pay such a high price for their education. But I don't regret it either, because some lessons can only be learned over time.

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