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(VLO) Being energetic and confident when chatting via text messages, but becoming silent and shy when facing others in person... is a fairly common situation in the communication of many young people today.
Encountering "barriers" when speaking in person.
With a phone in hand, young people can talk anytime, anywhere, with many people at once. However, the convenience that technology brings is gradually creating a wall separating young people from the world around them.
Despite being a tourism student, Pham Hoang Ngan faces difficulties when communicating in person. Hoang Ngan says she prefers communicating via text messages or email because she can control her words before sending them.
"When talking in person, I feel inexplicably shy and don't know what to say. Unless it's absolutely necessary to talk in person, I choose to 'chat' on social media," the second-year student shared.
Similarly, Le Tran Ngoc Minh, an accounting student, said she prefers online communication to in-person communication. According to Ngoc Minh, there are things that are difficult to say, but she feels more courageous if she sends a message. Furthermore, during the prolonged COVID-19 pandemic, she stayed home and chatted online, which she got used to.
However, Ngoc Minh also realized that such excessive communication had made her friend withdrawn, shy, and hesitant to build relationships with those around her.
Ngoc Minh said that when she studied online, she was very confident giving presentations through the screen. But when she returned to in-person classes at school, even though she had prepared very well, she became nervous and stammered out words when she had to present in front of a group because she was anxious…
Ngoc Minh said: “Currently, I am trying to improve my communication skills by observing my friends around me, especially adults, so that I can speak more appropriately. I also follow trends so that I can join conversations with my friends.”
In reality, many young people today are accustomed to communicating through keyboards and phones, so when they meet and exchange ideas in person, they often feel shy, awkward, and their expressions lack logic.
This makes it difficult for you to integrate, gradually leading to isolation from those around you, and putting you at a disadvantage in both your work and daily life.
Despite having a good academic record, Nguyen Hong Nhung, a third-year law student, is very insecure about her communication skills. She is often described as "unapproachable," and her friends say she is not sociable or friendly...
Hong Nhung explained that because she had only communicated through social media for a long time, she felt uncomfortable facing other people and was very hesitant to talk in person.
"Even though I've met acquaintances many times and tried every way to strike up a conversation, when I finally open my mouth, I stammer and can't form a coherent sentence. Many times, despite my best efforts, the conversation simply doesn't last long," Hong Nhung confided.
Overcoming shyness/embarrassment
Having previously been very talkative online but too nervous to say anything in person, Nguyen Minh Huy, a social work student, had to work very hard to overcome this. For Minh Huy, no matter how long online conversations last, the impression on others is always the same as the first meeting.
To be able to confidently converse in real life, Minh Huy had to work hard for a long time to overcome his shortcomings. Besides talking less on social media, Minh Huy also read books on communication skills, learned more about the interests of his friends and family, and proactively suggested topics related to life, humorous stories, and positive conversations during their meetings.
Minh Huy happily shared: "And one thing I think is key to making conversations more comfortable and interesting is to avoid asking closed-ended questions. Don't ask meaningless questions like: Have you eaten yet? Do you like drinking coffee?...".
Minh Huy added that on social media, we often feel like we can be ourselves and express our true selves more clearly than in real life.
However, it's important to understand that social media is just a tool, and we shouldn't become overly dependent on it. Instead, we should step outside and do new things to make our real lives more colorful.
Unable to write or constantly be on his phone, Phan Duy Anh, a construction engineer, decided to use "traditional" communication methods.
According to him, communication is a crucial part of life. We cannot maintain good relationships without communicating regularly. And we gain more value through direct communication.
Whenever he speaks directly with clients, he always begins with a polite greeting, listens attentively, and shares constructive feedback… As a result, his work and relationships have flourished. “Being open and having good communication skills naturally leads to more opportunities in all aspects of life,” he shared.
Lack of confidence and shyness in communication are major obstacles on the path to success for young people. Young lecturer Le My Trang believes that to overcome these barriers, young people must confront them.
Young people shouldn't spend too much time in the virtual world; they should be active, regularly interact, proactively engage in conversations with others, actively participate in clubs, and take on part-time jobs… Don't hesitate to change to integrate and improve yourself in a more positive direction.
Text and photos: PHUONG VY
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