The whole family breathes a sigh of relief because the mother-in-law spoils her daughter-in-law immensely.

Nowadays, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is much more relaxed than in the past - Photo: DUYEN PHAN

Nguyen Ngoc Mai (60 years old, residing in District 7, Ho Chi Minh City), who has only one son and has been married for four years, says that her relationship with her daughter-in-law is very good because she always... goes along with her daughter-in-law's wishes.

Brides today are very different.

Mrs. Mai's husband passed away early, and during the years her son was studying abroad in Australia, she lived at home with a maid. After her son returned to Vietnam and worked for a few years, he fell in love with a girl who was also the only daughter of a well-off family in Ho Chi Minh City.

Although Mrs. Mai lives in a large villa with a garden in District 7, a spacious house with many rooms, when her son got married, the two children still decided to live separately.

Ms. Mai bought a luxury apartment in District 4 (Ho Chi Minh City) for her two children to live in together. Ms. Mai said, "In my house, I always have a separate room for my two children, so they can come and visit or stay whenever they want." She hired interior designers to redesign the room to match her daughter-in-law's taste.

During the first few weekends when her two children came to visit, Mrs. Mai was very surprised by her new daughter-in-law. Besides being very well-dressed and fashionable, she didn't know how to do anything, not even peel a clove of garlic.

After spending some more time with her, Mrs. Mai learned that her daughter-in-law had never done any housework since she was a child and didn't know how to do anything. She only learned to peel garlic after coming to live with her mother-in-law. However, Mrs. Mai praised her daughter-in-law, saying, "Even though she doesn't know how to do anything, she always compliments the maid and my cooking."

Later, when her daughter-in-law came to visit, Mrs. Mai said she didn't ask her to do anything because her daughter-in-law didn't know how to do anything, and now she was making her do it for nothing. The daughter-in-law's job before visiting her mother-in-law was to tell her when she would be visiting and what food she would like to eat.

There were days when her son and daughter-in-law came to stay overnight, and it felt like they had given her a big gift. Even if her daughter-in-law slept until noon the next morning, Mrs. Mai was still happy, and now she thinks, "That's what daughters-in-law are like these days."

"If I'm cheerful and indulgent towards my son, he'll want to come and play. But if things are always this way or that way, I might not even see my son anymore," Mrs. Mai shared with a smile.

When the daughter-in-law is happy, the son will be happy too.

Meanwhile, Mrs. Nguyen Ngoc Khanh (69 years old, residing in Go Vap District, Ho Chi Minh City) has been living with her youngest son and his wife for 10 years. When her son got married, she reclaimed all the rented parts of the house to build a large, beautiful house to welcome her new daughter-in-law.

Previously, when she was a daughter-in-law in her hometown, she had a very hard life. From early morning, she had to get up to chop vegetables and cook a large pot of pig feed for the seven pigs that her husband's family was raising. As a teacher, after finishing her teaching job, she would rush home to cook meals for her husband's family, a total of nine people.

In the old days, when food was scarce, at mealtimes, she had to sit at the head of the table to serve rice to everyone in her husband's family. She would have to stop eating her bowl of rice to serve the other eight people.

Mrs. Khanh is kind and does all the chores, but her mother-in-law is still not satisfied. On days when her mother-in-law enjoys the food, she's happy. But on days when her mother-in-law doesn't find the food appetizing, she'll readily tell her, "Why is your cooking so bad? You need to concentrate while you're cooking!"

Although her daughter-in-law also came from the countryside to the city to start her career, she usually doesn't wake up until almost 7 a.m. on weekdays. She puts on makeup, gets dressed, goes downstairs for breakfast, and then goes to work. On weekends, she can sleep in as long as she wants.

Her routine involves waking up early to exercise, then returning home to cook breakfast for the whole family. After the children and grandchildren finish eating, she cleans up. In the evening, she cooks dinner and waits for the whole family to come home to eat.

Her daughter-in-law has now given birth to two children, but she pays little attention to their eating habits. She cooks whatever she likes for them at home, otherwise her daughter-in-law takes them out to eat. She always finds her daughter-in-law's behavior "strange," but because she likes being close to her son, she always tries her best to... please her.

Sometimes Mrs. Khanh had a few things that annoyed her daughter-in-law, but she didn't dare say anything. She often said to her husband, "It's good that our daughter-in-law is willing to live with her parents-in-law. If we don't accommodate her wishes, she might persuade our son to move out, and then we won't have the chance to live near him anymore."

Some mothers-in-law today realize: "When the daughter-in-law is happy, the son will be happy. When the son is happy, the whole family is happy." This saying also serves as a guiding principle for many modern families today.

Treat your daughter-in-law like your own daughter.

Mrs. Hoang Lan (50 years old, residing in Phu Nhuan District, Ho Chi Minh City) has only had a daughter-in-law for one or two years. She has two sons, so since her daughter-in-law arrived, Mrs. Lan has always treated her like her own daughter. She doesn't criticize her daughter-in-law or ask her to do anything beyond her capabilities; she patiently guides and teaches her anything her daughter-in-law doesn't know. She said, "My daughter-in-law works quite hard, and I also work, so I understand her situation."

Although she's quite busy with work, whenever she has free time, Mrs. Lan – a thoughtful mother-in-law – always calls her daughter-in-law so the whole family can go out for a meal, or they can go for coffee, shopping, etc. The whole family often goes on fun trips together, fulfilling the daughter-in-law's wishes.

What do you think about mothers-in-law pampering their daughters-in-law? How have you pampered your daughter-in-law to keep your family harmonious and happy? Or, as a daughter-in-law, are you pampered by your husband's family? Please share your views and stories by emailing tto@tuoitre.com.vn. Tuoi Tre Online thanks you.

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