The secret to mastering emotions

Feelings of anger and anxiety will cause us to have health problems such as stress, headaches, insomnia, high blood pressure, depression...

Controlling anger

Feelings of anger and anxiety will cause us to encounter health problems such as stress, headaches, insomnia, high blood pressure, depression, etc. Therefore, understanding and controlling negative emotions not only helps us protect our mental and physical health but also gives us a sober view of people, things, and events around us.

To be able to control anger effectively, we must learn the skill of recognizing the signs of anger when we are in an argument with others. We can only control our emotions when we recognize the negative signs rising inside us (increased heart rate, muscle tension, feeling frustrated, short of breath, wanting to explode…).

Not everyone has the ability to control negative emotions well without prior training. When we see signs of anger rising in us, we can perform some emotional control movements using deep breathing techniques and facial muscle relaxation.

It is not unreasonable that Yoga trainers and psychologists advise us that: "If we feel anger erupting, we can repeat the action of taking deep and slow breaths, then hold the breath for a few seconds and slowly exhale through the mouth or maintain focus on each muscle group in the body, slowly tense them up and then relax to calm negative emotions. Once positive thoughts are practiced regularly, they will become a part of your life."

Accept past mistakes

American philosopher Benjamin Franklin once said: "The past is like a ghost, the present is a gift, the future is a dream." So, while life is always moving, if we keep negative memories in our heads or indulge in beautiful memories (of the past), it will make us not open to the present, not ready to move towards the future.

In fact, people who cling to the past often feel depressed, stressed, lazy, bored, and stagnant. The past (whether happy or sad, lucky or unlucky) is always a part of life. Everyone has a past and people are not machines that can just press the "delete" button to erase all the past.

However, we need to understand that the past is past, we cannot go back and redo it. Therefore, blindly holding on to the past only makes us lose the opportunity of the present and the future.

When you cannot redo and change the mistakes that have happened, accept it, compromise with the old wounds to move on, open the door to the future. Consider the past as a lesson, an experience, a challenge that we must go through to become more mature in will and courage.

Source: https://phunuvietnam.vn/bi-quyet-lam-chu-cam-xuc-20240923123858209.htm