Ngoc Lan is a familiar face to audiences who love Vietnamese dramas. After many years of artistic activities, the actress has a certain place in the hearts of the audience. Besides work, she often shares with the audience about her adorable son Louis. This is the result of her happy but rather short marriage with actress Thanh Binh.
On the occasion of March 8, Ngoc Lan opened her heart to VTC News about the life of mother and daughter after divorce.
Actress Ngoc Lan is satisfied with her single life with her son.
Boys are great "companions".
– After nearly 6 years of being a single mother, can Ngoc Lan share about the current life of mother and daughter?
This year my son Louis is 7 years old. For me, from the day my son was born until now, everything has been like a dream. I always have the feeling that just yesterday, I was an independent, free woman, yet I just woke up and had a child this big.
Even though he's still young, he knows how to share with me, knows how to worry when he sees me sad, knows how lonely he is when he comes home from school and doesn't find me at home. He knows how to win or lose with friends, knows how to strive to achieve certain goals, knows how to read, write, know how to text his mother... The first time I read my son's message, I was very emotional.
Even now, I still don't believe I have a child in my life. I am happy that I have such a wonderful child.
I don't care how much I was a single mother for 6 years. For me, as a mother, responsibility for my children comes first. Maybe I'm used to this so I don't have any thoughts about "single mother".
I don't see any difference between raising children with my husband or raising children alone. The only difference is that in the past 7 years I have had a wonderful companion.
Ngoc Lan always considers her son to be her great companion.
– On March 8, all women took the opportunity to "show off" their happiness of receiving unexpected gifts from their husbands and lovers. Is Ngoc Lan heartbroken?
On March 8 of this year, I felt very happy, like I received a big gift because on March 3, I was able to leave the filming crew and go home with my son.
For the past 6 months, I have been diligently traveling back and forth between Ho Chi Minh City and Da Lat to both work and take care of my son. This time I can officially go home with my child, so I'm very happy.
– What gift does Ngoc Lan most want to receive on March 8?
I think everyone likes to receive gifts, I am no exception. I even like to receive gifts every day, not just March 8 (laughs).
From the day my son started school when he was over 1 year old until today, for the past 6 years, I have received gifts from him every year. These are gifts that children make themselves with the support and guidance of teachers at school. I know my child will also grow up, and as the child matures, he will gradually separate from his parents, so I hope that every year and every occasion I will receive gifts from my "young man", not just on the 8th. 3.
– What do you do on your special days?
During the holidays, no matter what I do, I spend as much time with my children as possible. For all my activities, I want to have my children by my side. This is what I like most and look forward to most during the holidays.
After the divorce, Ngoc Lan received many flirts and acquaintances, but she refused them all because her number 1 priority was her son.
My son is still young, I haven't thought about "moving on" yet.
– As her son grows older, it will certainly be much more difficult for Ngoc Lan to be both a mother and a friend to her son. Can you share in taking care of and teaching your child, what changes have you made to better suit your child?
As parents, all parents can guide and educate their children. But being friends with your children, to be "bad" with them, to grow up with them, so that when they stumble, being able to accompany them is not simple.
I am making friends with my children in life. I don't know if I did well or not, but up to now, I haven't found any difficulty in being friends with my child. Children grow up quickly, there will be changes every day, every month, every year... so we need to observe and be with them more so that we can know and see their changes and have appropriate solutions. according to each stage of your child's development.
The most important thing I see when raising children is that parents need to stay calm. When we see something happening, we should not rush to judge, we should not make a decision right at that moment.
If the incident is serious, we need time to think, find out more information, and learn more experiences from parents. Then, based on the child's personality and environment, we have appropriate solutions. I think this is something people need to really pay attention to.
I see the journey of being a parent as growing with our children and learning with them. You will teach us many lessons. I have learned many things from my children, from teaching them.
– Has a boy ever made Ngoc Lan sad or disappointed?
I'm sad, but not disappointed. Because it's a child and it's mine, I can't be disappointed. A child is still developing, if he makes mistakes, it's my fault, so I don't have the right to be disappointed.
I'm sad because my child is sometimes disobedient and sometimes makes me worry. My nature is that I'm a worried person, so I'm often sad. The sadness is not brought by the children, but sadness is caused by thinking and worrying about the future too much. I imagine too many things about bad things that will happen in the future for me and my child, so I feel sad and worried.
Even though she is an amateur actress, Ngoc Lan is always highly appreciated by the audience for her acting ability.
– When her son is older and understands things, does Ngoc Lan have plans to move on?
Right now my son is still young and still needs me a lot, so I haven't thought about changing my current life.
From the moment I decided to raise my child alone and accompany my child alone, I made my own decisions. That is how to arrange life to best accompany your child in many roles, so that your child can develop and grow up with the best moral foundation.
At the same time, I also have an economic plan to make enough to support my children in difficult times like now. Currently, I am developing my own projects and plans quite well.
– “No matter how strong women are, deep down in their hearts they are still weak and need a fulcrum”? What do you think about this statement?
I think not only women, everyone who exists in this life also needs a fulcrum in life. As an actor, observing social life is very important, so I realized this. This is also the living capital I dedicate to my role.
Like everyone, I also need someone by my side for support, motivation, and sharing in life. Sometimes, in society, I am forced to become a strong person, but when I am alone, I also have moments of weakness.
Actress Ngoc Lan: When I'm alone, I'm sometimes weak.
– Recently, audiences often see Ngoc Lan on livestream instead of dramas. Is this your long-term direction?
For more than 10 years, I have not participated in game shows because I felt I was not suitable. Regarding dramas, since my divorce, I decided to only accept 1-2 dramas a year and limit the time to 6 months. I will spend the remaining 6 months on my business projects and taking care of and raising my son.
So the frequency of my appearances in movies will be reduced by more than half compared to before. But luckily, every year I have a movie broadcast so the audience doesn't forget me. On the contrary, I also did not forget my job.
The audience sees me on livestream because I work when the brand books. I don't dare to "play the ax through the eyes of the workers" because the livestream sales people are very professional. I can't get over you guys. I can only try to do the best I can.
Besides, I also have a business product so I also want to try doing business in this form to see how it goes. I also want to challenge myself in this new job. In the long run, I will still follow my strengths, doing traditional business and making art.
Ngoc Lan has a sharp and attractive beauty.
– What are your future plans at work?
Maybe I won't accept any new movie roles this year. Because the movie I received in 2023 has completed 6 months and still stretches into 2024, I feel sorry for my child. I want to be at home with my children more in the near future.
Besides, I will also focus on business to develop more. Being an employer not only takes care of your own work, but also takes care of the economic life of your employees. Therefore, I am quite pressured and want to do better.
I feel lucky that in my new field of business, I have very good colleagues who support and accompany me, making my work more convenient.
