Mr. To, China, 65 years old this year, has a son over 30 years old. His son has a stable job and got married 5 years ago. When his son bought a house, Mr. To and his wife paid 2/3 of the amount in advance, and the children paid the rest themselves.
Despite the appointment, his son always borrowed money from his parents to pay off the house debt periodically. Said it was a loan but never paid back. Mr. To and his wife were also hesitant to ask for their child. After that, his son often asked his parents to help him look after him, then asked him to buy this and that, all expensive things without ever sending money. Not only that, many times Mr. To and his wife took their child to school and saw the teacher remind his parents that he had not yet paid school fees, so they used the money to pay.
Last month, Ms. To got sick and had to be hospitalized. At this time, Mr. To discovered that most of his savings over the years had been siphoned off by his son. When Mr. To called to ask his son to contribute more money to his mother's hospital bills, his son tried to excuse himself, saying that he had been having a hard time lately.
“My parents still have their monthly pension.” , his son replied.
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After spending most of his remaining savings to pay hospital bills and buy nutritious food for his wife, Mr. To thought a lot. In just a few days, he lost weight. Having only one child, Mr. To loves him very much. However, instead of training their son to have good qualities, to live independently, and to be responsible for the family, he and his wife pampered and provided their child with money, unintentionally encouraging their son to have the habit of "gnawing". parents.
In fact, parents want to use money to help their children as much as possible, but helping too much is like destroying their children's wings, making them never independent. Parents love but cannot protect their children forever. If they continue to pamper them too much, they will not only harm the children but also harm the parents themselves.
Looking at his current situation, Mr. To choked up and said that if he had asked for money in the past, he would have known to say no, asking him to be independent and work hard to take care of his own family. If he can satisfy his own personal needs, his old age will probably be very peaceful and leisurely.
In fact, many parents do not have the heart to refuse their children, because they think that refusing is cruel to their children. However, educating children sometimes has to be "cruel" in many aspects. "Cruelty" sometimes shows the foresight of parents and the love they have for their children.
Regardless of whether parents have money or not, they should try to be moderate in their later years and not spend too much money unnecessarily on their children. Money should be used to help children grow up and support themselves when they get old. This is the best use of money and the wisest way to raise children.
Parents who do this often will lower their child's IQ
