In order for teenagers not to fall into the problem of early sex, psychologists say that parents need to care, supervise and be friends with their children.
Vietnam is currently in the top 20 countries with the highest teen abortion rate. According to the data of the Vietnam Family Planning Association, each year, the country has nearly 300.000 abortions, mainly in the 15-19 age group, of which 60-70% are students.
These alarming numbers reflect the ominous consequences of early sexual relations in children, so there is a great need for attention and education from families and schools.
The greater the pressure, the more likely adolescents are to become "addicted" to sex
According to Th.S - Doctor Nguyen Hong Bach, in recent years, improper nutrition and early exposure to social networking platforms make children tend to have early puberty physically as well as early. psychophysiology, giving rise to curiosity about sex and sexuality.
Many children have started masturbating, even addicted to masturbation during puberty, because it is done in an enclosed space, alone, so most parents do not know this.
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| Th.S – Doctor Nguyen Hong Bach. |
In the process of interacting with adolescent patients, Dr. Nguyen Hong Bach found that today's young generation often face many kinds of pressure.
In addition to the pressure from studying, the lack of care, understanding and sharing of parents also invisibly creates a second layer of pressure for their children.
“The wrong way to interact with minors will create great pressure for them, including dynamic pressure and static pressure.
Parents often tend to compare their children with others or speak harshly to their children when they do not get good grades, which will create dynamic pressure on their minds at this time.
For children with good observation, they also easily notice the disappointment and sadness of their parents. These are also static pressures that parents inadvertently put on their children,” said doctor Nguyen Hong Bach.
When under great pressure, many teens see masturbation as an escape. Masturbation can increase levels of mood-elevating hormones, such as dopamine, oxytocin and endorphins, which reduce stress in children; but if masturbation with a long and continuous intensity leads to addiction.
Masturbation addiction can easily turn into sex addiction, as children tend to seek out real-life experiences after having explored their own bodies.
These real-life experiences can lead to unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or psychological trauma during sex.
Parents should be friends with their children during adulthood
Doctor Nguyen Hong Bach said that parents need to be friends with their children throughout adulthood so that they can care for and educate children in time, especially in sexual matters.
Parents also need to master the stages of child development, depending on each stage, they have their own way of "making friends", thereby helping their children relieve pressure.
The period from 3 to 6 years old is the period of development of linguistic thinking. During this period, children will have a lot of questions about the world around them, requiring parents to be patient and dedicated to their children in this early stage of development.
The period from 7 to 12 years old is the period of linguistic thinking and gender positioning. This is a "golden" time to build the foundation of sex and sexuality education for children.
In the period from 13 to 16 years old, children will have great changes in psychological development, self-definition and gender definition that we often call "rebellious age".
The tendency of children to want to prove themselves at this stage is very large, along with curiosity, the desire to discover about themselves and sex.
At this age, parents are most likely to lose connection with their children if they do not accompany and pay close attention, causing children to lack proper guidance, leading to unfortunate consequences such as early sex, pregnancy, etc. unwanted pregnancy…
After this stage, children will enter adulthood, forming their own moral standards, parents will find it difficult to intervene.
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| Parents need to be friends with their children during adulthood (illustration). |
According to Dr. Nguyen Hong Bach, in the process of making friends with their children, parents also need to be open about sex education; need to change their thinking to frankly share and guide their children about physiological problems during puberty.
Without proper guidance from parents, children's exploration of gender and sexuality can go astray, making children prone to addiction to masturbation and sex addiction.
“In the case of finding out that their children masturbate or have sex, parents should not make a big deal out of it or forbid their children not to repeat the behavior. Parents should calm down, observe their children, and at the same time regularly talk and confide in their children to solve the outstanding problems between the two generations.
If children tend to be addicted, that is, masturbate more than usual, or have early sexual intercourse, parents need to intervene promptly or consult a specialist to solve any problems, avoid leaving behind unfortunate consequences," shared doctor Nguyen Hong Bach.
According to Diep Thao/VOV.VN
