Strong in the face of adversity
Ms. Kim Ngoc (residing in Dien Hong ward, Ho Chi Minh City) dedicated her youth to caring for her family, looking after her elderly father, raising her two children, and constantly striving to earn money to cover family expenses. Meanwhile, her husband, Mr. Thanh, earned a decent monthly income from driving a truck for the wholesale agricultural market, but he only gave her a few million dong to support the children, showing no concern for her struggles and hardships. Becoming accustomed to this, Ms. Ngoc continued to work hard and care for her family. She lived with a heart full of love for her loved ones and the growing indifference of her husband.
But lately, she's become much quieter. Ever since those heated arguments with her husband about work, money, and personal emotions, he hasn't cared when she's sick, and he doesn't even notice when she's sad and in tears.
After many tears for herself, reflecting on the past and the deep feelings they once shared, Ms. Ngoc "came to her senses" and accepted letting go, no longer prioritizing emotional connection within the family as before. At home, apart from simple, brief exchanges with her husband about matters related to the children, she had no desire to talk to him about anything else. She became quieter, using the excuse of needing to work late to sleep separately. When her husband went somewhere or did something, she no longer asked or called him as she used to. Gradually, the family no longer shared meals together at the table as before… Life in the small house changed noticeably; the children also became quieter, more withdrawn, and less likely to confide in their parents about school as they used to. Yet, Mr. Thanh remained indifferent, treating everything as normal.
Sympathizing with Ngoc's life, a close friend once asked why she didn't get a divorce. She smiled faintly and replied sadly, "Because of my children, I'm trying." The answer was brief but heavy, for it was a lesson she had learned after years of being a wife and mother: she needed to care for herself more, find joy and positive motivation to live and work productively, and love those who deserve to be loved.
Together, sharing, and loving.
According to many psychologists, the phenomenon of women feeling lonely in their families due to having to shoulder too many responsibilities for their husbands and children is very common in today's life. They are physically exhausted and emotionally lonely as all the burdens fall on their shoulders, from domestic to external affairs. But behind that strength and resilience, there is often a sensitive, vulnerable heart, and somewhere deep within their souls, loneliness always exists. They always yearn for care, sharing, and understanding. Therefore, the stronger a woman becomes, the more she needs a place to lean on, to be loved, to share with, and to be comforted, instead of being abandoned with the thought, "She'll probably be fine."
Many families have broken up due to the indifference of family members towards the women in the household. In some cases, wives and mothers fall into stress and depression because of feelings of "being abandoned," of being neglected, unheard, especially by those they once loved most.
These tragedies are not difficult to recognize and can be prevented if the woman's partner has genuine understanding, love, and care, and is willing to be the most peaceful emotional support to alleviate her emotional pain. Only the deep love, companionship, and sharing of the husband can soothe the feelings of sadness and help the wife and mother not feel lonely in the happy home they have dedicated their youth to building.
Dr. Pham Thi Thuy, a psychologist: Change yourself, don't expect others to change.
In my opinion, women shouldn't wait for their husbands and children to change; they must change themselves first. There's no need for nagging or sulking, as this only creates a suffocating atmosphere in the family. The important thing is to create joy and happiness for yourself first. Instead of doing everything yourself and complaining about lack of help, women should delegate household chores to their husbands and children, clearly stating their needs so everyone in the family can share the burden. Furthermore, women should broaden their activities outside the home, such as building friendships, taking care of their health, traveling , etc.; if they are only housewives, they should find a side job to add to their lives, creating their own joy and passion. A home should be a place where everyone feels comfortable, can share, and be together when they return; otherwise, it's no longer a home.
Source: https://www.sggp.org.vn/se-chia-de-khong-co-don-post848757.html
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