The times of "slagging" for no reason, the jealousy that has no beginning or end, when the current person hears someone talking about an ex-lover, or accidentally scrolls through Facebook and sees that the ex-lover of the husband/lover has a perfect life.
The 'past is the past, tell me about it' trick
Thanh - my friend during coffee and drinking times - often tells his "stupid" story when telling his wife everything about his ex-lover.
Thanh remembers when they were in love, many times his wife asked about his ex-lover, he "resolutely refused to tell". During those days, Thanh was asked many times: "Is there something hidden or shady or why don't you tell?". But he still maintained his stance: "I came to you and devoted myself to you wholeheartedly. My ex is my past and has nothing to do with our relationship. I hope you respect me."
Those tough and reasonable words stopped his wife's curiosity when she was still in love. The love was beautiful, not stormy until they got married. Both have stable jobs and are mature enough to build a peaceful home.
But then it wasn't the wind, but a prolonged thunderstorm when he "foolishly" believed his wife was just asking to know.
“When my wife was pregnant with her first child, her head was on her hands and knees, she was so coy, it caught me off guard. First, she asked how many ex-lovers she had. I didn't answer, she said she was just curious for fun, but now that they have children, they trust each other absolutely," Thanh said.
So Thanh said he had five relationships before meeting his wife. Somehow, his wife successfully "took the hint" and revealed all five ex-lovers from Thanh in great detail. And although Thanh no longer has any information about his ex, his wife still found each person's Facebook.
From here, the past slept peacefully in Thanh's heart, but woke up in his wife's heart. Every day she visits Facebook with her husband's ex-lovers. She was "confused" many times when she saw that these ex-lovers were all talented and had extremely fulfilling lives.
“I don't know why she's jealous. Jealous since getting pregnant with our first child, now our second child is 4 years old, my wife still occasionally sends Facebook messages to her ex-lover, every time she posts a happy status or picture. Fool once, suffer for life, sir," Thanh said humorously.
Jealousy was even a "thank god" when Thanh's wife felt that she was not as good as her ex-lovers. When husband and wife have problems in normal life, the wife will scold: "Yeah, I'm not as good as your ex-girlfriends. You probably regret marrying this incompetent son."
One time, Thanh burst out laughing at that unreasonable jealousy. When his wife saw it, she immediately got angry: "I said it right to your heart, didn't I?" But if you say you don't care about your ex, you probably miss it very much now and regret it very much."
Thanh said that even with 10 mouths, he couldn't explain it, because no matter how he explained it, his wife already assumed the answer. Thanh jokingly said that now he has become a hostage in the relationship between husband and wife, not daring to fight back, not daring to argue, because he is too afraid of his wife bringing up his ex.
“Nowadays, I obey my wife very much, but every now and then I get sent my ex's status with a message It looks so good and delicious, I'm sure I'll regret it.". To avoid the fire from breaking out, Thanh urgently flattered him, invited him to eat, or immediately shot him for a few million...
“You know that kid, right? I know, don't deny it."
Thanh's story made the whole table laugh, but almost everyone had this problem. There's even one person among my friends who is a journalist. This guy was even more tragic when when he was in love with his ex, he foolishly used his last name and his lover's last name as a pseudonym.
The name is nailed in readers' hearts and cannot be changed. So every time "rice khe", this guy's wife said: "Yes, I can't reason like a great journalist... the name is so beautiful and meaningful, the love is so deep."
That pen name "hangs" the poor husband's life on the ever-floating wave.
Vien told the story of his current lover being jealous of his ex. Vien was the last unmarried person in a group of dozens of friends hanging out together. He was just as frustrated as the married men. Vien is handsome and has a good job, so many girls pay attention to him.
Now 36 years old, Vien has decided to "marry at the end of the year" with his current lover, but the love affairs and rumors are still a headache. Vien's girlfriend was 10 years younger. They had just returned from the big city to work when they met. Vien said this was the most suitable person he had ever met, and he wanted to marry her.
But unfortunately, fate plays tricks on people, I don't know what force pushed Vien's lover to sit across from his ex-lover and do the same job. So everyone knows and teases. From here on, storms filled the sky, Vien's girlfriend "heard" asking to reveal all her ex-lovers to "not be shocked".
There's nothing wrong with being handsome, even though Vien "honestly reported" without missing anyone, his girlfriend goes to work, communicates a lot and often hears information "Vien used to know this girl, that girl". Every time that happens, the girlfriend texts and asks: "You know that girl, right? I know, don't deny it."
"You know, since Tet until now, I've had 6 more ex-lovers from the rumors my girlfriend heard," Vien hugged his head, and his friends laughed.
The whole group began to propose a plan for Vien to deal with his girlfriend, explaining it in a reasonable way. Because women don't care about the truth, they care about their intelligence. We stayed awake for a while, discussing until we dispersed and realized that 16 of us were playing together, and 14 of us were jealous of our exes for no reason. Everyone is fed up because their current person is jealous of their ex, even though they haven't done anything wrong. Everyone is stressed about this problem.
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