Be careful when teaching children

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The other day, I took my son to get vaccinated . While waiting for my turn, I saw a mother comforting her little daughter who had just finished getting vaccinated, crying loudly because of the pain. The young mother kept caressing her child. Among the promises of buying candy and toys, there was a sentence that caught my attention and startled me: "The female doctor is so bad, she hurt my baby, I will beat her up later!"

Suddenly I remembered an aunt who lived near my house. Her family had only girls, so when she had a grandson, she loved him very much. But her nephew was quite naughty. Every time he fell down, he would cry loudly. The grandmother felt sorry for him so she dropped everything and ran out of the kitchen. When she knew that he tripped over the table, she scolded the table for hurting him. When she knew that he bumped into the door, she scolded the door.

This seemingly small but not so small story is probably still easy to find anywhere, where there are still many parents who do not love their children properly and unintentionally teach their children the mentality of blaming. Instead of patiently analyzing the cause, pointing out the child's mistake when being careless, explaining the nature of the problem that the doctor injected the vaccine to prevent the child from getting sick, it will hurt a little but it will be good for the child in the future, parents often choose an easier thing, which is to blame to temporarily soothe. While each child is a "blank sheet of paper", unable to distinguish between what is right and what is wrong, parents direct their children to blame others for the wrong.

As parents, I think we should gently explain and help our children courageously admit their mistakes. Because what if that child grows up every day, when faced with a situation, he never sees his own mistakes but only sees the mistakes of others? "Sow an action, reap a habit, sow a habit, reap a character, sow a character, reap a destiny", as parents, we should not, because of pampering and giving our children a temporary sense of satisfaction, teach them to blame and tolerate their mistakes./.

Dong Ho Lake

Source: https://baolongan.vn/can-than-khi-day-con-a195357.html