Be careful when teaching your children.

The other day, I took my son to get vaccinated. While waiting for my turn, I saw a mother comforting her little daughter who had just received an injection, as the child was crying loudly because it hurt.

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The other day, I took my son to get vaccinated . While waiting for my turn, I saw a mother comforting her little daughter, who had just received an injection and was crying loudly because it hurt. The young mother kept stroking her child. Amidst promises of candy and toys, one sentence caught my attention and startled me: "That doctor was so mean, she hurt my baby. I'll hit her later!"

Suddenly, I remembered an aunt who lived near my house. Her family consisted only of daughters, so when she had a grandson, she doted on him immensely. But her grandson was quite mischievous. Every time he fell, he would cry loudly, and his grandmother, feeling sorry for him, would drop everything she was doing in the kitchen and rush out. If she found out he tripped over a table, she would scold the table for hurting him; if she found out he bumped into a door, she would scold the door.

This seemingly small but significant story is perhaps a common occurrence anywhere, where many parents still love their children in the wrong way, inadvertently teaching them a blame-based mentality. Instead of patiently analyzing the cause, pointing out the child's mistake in carelessness, and explaining the nature of the problem—that the doctor gave the child a vaccine to prevent disease, that it would hurt a little but would be good for the child in the long run— parents often choose the easier option of blaming others to temporarily soothe the situation. While each child is a "blank slate," unable to distinguish right from wrong, parents guide their children to blame others for their mistakes.

As parents, I believe we should gently explain and help our children bravely admit their mistakes. What would happen if, as a child grows up, they never see their own faults but only the mistakes of others? "Sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny." As parents, we shouldn't spoil our children by giving them temporary satisfaction and teaching them to blame others or condone their mistakes.

Dong Ho Lake

Source: https://baolongan.vn/can-than-khi-day-con-a195357.html