Men after marriage are often divided into 2 groups:
Group 1: Good husbands, who give their wives their full salary every month, not a penny less. They accept whatever their wives give them for personal expenses, without a single complaint.
Group 2: Men who "measure out drops of fish sauce, count onions", absolutely never give all their money to their wives to keep, each month "assign" their wives a certain amount as a way to fulfill their obligations and responsibilities, without caring whether that amount is enough to buy food, drinks, diapers, and milk for their children or not.
Hearing this is enough to understand, which type of man knows how to love his wife and children, which type of man is petty, selfish and only thinks about himself. If you marry a husband in group 2, it will definitely be difficult for you to be happy...
Unfortunately, there are still such "unlucky" wives in the world...
Husband earns 30 million but insists on only giving his wife 5 million for food, even though the family has 4 people.
Recently, in a community sharing experiences and knowledge about personal financial management, a wife's story made everyone who read it feel sorry and sympathetic.
A family of 2 husband and wife, 2 small children, but the husband only gives 5 million for food and drink...
The first child is the wife's stepchild, she does not ask her husband to contribute money to raise the stepchild. But 2 adults, 1 child, living in Hanoi with a food budget of 5 million is still unthinkable!
In the comment section of the post, many people were "eyes wide open, mouths wide open", because they could not believe that there was a husband in the world who was so stingy and calculating with his wife and children that he would rather go out to eat and drink than give his wife money to take care of the groceries.
Too upset, many people advised this wife to... leave her husband.
"Common money means unity, separate money means separate hearts"
"This is sharing a room, we are roommates, not husband and wife"...
In short, listening to this wife's story, everyone could only sigh and sympathize, but could not suggest a feasible solution.
The text messages between the woman and her husband in the photo above show that this husband has no love for his wife or children. Men like that, even haggling over 2 million for food, are frankly beyond "salvation".
A hard lesson for singles: Before getting married, you must clarify these 4 things!
No one wants to marry a husband who "measures fish sauce and counts onions"; no one wants a wife who spends money like crazy, who doesn't know how to save.
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So before deciding to live together, to avoid falling into a state of "panic" because of differences in opinions and thinking about spending and saving, couples should seriously sit down and discuss the 4 things below.
1 - Income and debts of each person
Clear money and love are only possible when you are not living together. No one wants to get married and then have to bear debts that they are not the ones who owe.
At that time, it was a pity to leave, but a sin to stay. In the end, neither of them could be happy.
So, being honest with each other about your income or debts not only shows respect for each other, but also limits many unnecessary conflicts in marriage.
2 - Clarify each person's financial responsibilities in the marriage
After being honest with each other about your current income and debts, there are three questions couples should clarify:
1. Who is the financial manager in the family?
2. What is the contribution rate of each person for living expenses, savings, and major goals (having children, buying a house, buying a car, etc.)?
3. How much % of income will each person spend on personal interests?
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Without clarifying these three issues from the beginning, married life will most likely fall into a situation where one person is resentful and the other is carefree like the story of the wife above.
3 - "Try" to take on financial responsibilities together before getting married
Discussing and agreeing is the first step. After that, whether both parties can carry out what they have set out or not is another matter. To minimize errors before the "game is done", it is best to give each other time to test the responsibility of contributing and shouldering the financial burden.
Only by trying it out will we know whether the plan, the role of each person in contributing and managing finances are appropriate or not. Then from there, we can find a way to handle and solve it.
4 - Be honest about your bad spending habits
There is nothing more difficult than admitting "I was wrong", especially for people with a big ego. However, let's just think that no one is perfect. People who are good at making money are likely to be spenders. People who are good at saving money may sometimes be a bit "harsh" with themselves when thinking about enjoying life.
All of these things are very normal. The important thing is whether you can recognize your own shortcomings and adjust them to suit your family life.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/nha-4-nguoi-chong-luong-30-trieu-nhung-chi-dua-cho-vo-5-trieu-lo-an-uong-cdm-buc-xuc-the-nay-la-o-ghep-chu-vo-chong-gi-172240914063234984.htm
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