Sometimes, parents' expectations and desires put a lot of pressure on their children. The pressure on the shoulders has inadvertently obscured the individual shapes, personalities as well as the inherent development of young people.
Young people are pressured to study. Illustration: Internet
After the Ministry of Education and Training announced the results of the High School Graduation Exam in 2023, many parents were happy when their children got the high scores they wanted. But there are also many parents who put on a "boring shirt" when their child's grades are not as expected. The case of Ms. D. is a typical example. When they learned that their child's total test score was more than 24 points, Ms. D's family felt disappointed. Also because she has a desire for her children to study at a medical university in Ho Chi Minh City. Ho Chi Minh City, but with this score, it is not good. It would not be worth mentioning if Ms. D.'s family changed and adjusted her child to study at another university. After all, all the negative thoughts of the family are focused on her child, not only blaming but even the family does not want to let the child go out to communicate because they think that it is embarrassing to get low scores. In a way, it is possible to sympathize with Ms. D.'s family because after all, every parent hopes their child achieves the best. But the extreme thoughts and actions of D.'s family brought pressure and left a heavy and self-deprecating mentality for her child's journey ahead that was difficult to erase.
There is a current reality that is the comparison between parents about the academic achievement of their children. This superiority inadvertently creates a race for scores between parents, where the pressure is none other than the children. Because when there is a comparison, parents will force their children to run after and spin with scores, while each person's ability is different.
Parents often place a lot of expectations on their children. But sometimes expecting too much pressure will cause young people to face many crises and conflicts. This brings more harms than benefits, for example the story of Ms. A. Under the pressure of Ms. A., her 2 children had to choose a major according to her wishes, but after graduating from university both of them did not go to work with their major, but turned to a different direction. These two young people explained that 4 years of college was about studying according to their mother's wishes, now that it's done, it's time for you to fulfill your dreams and passions. So is it the pressure of Ms. A. that has caused wasting time and money for her children for 4 years?
Learning is important, but don't make it a burden for your child. Be always beside, care and motivate your child to study and practice well. Because when living under too much pressure, many young people will gradually forget about themselves, forget their own values, get caught up in a vortex that is always under pressure by what others impose, evaluate about me. And once young people have not overcome the limit of pressure, many negative consequences can occur such as: stress, depression, even choosing a foolish "solution". Therefore, parents need to spend time confiding, sharing, listening and supporting their child's choice if it is reasonable. Because the path to success today has many paths, just determine which path is right for you and try your best.
GIA NGUYEN
