Firstborn, middle child, youngest child, who is more likely to succeed? The answer surprises many parents

Parents with multiple children often assume that they can provide their children with selfless and equal love, but countless real-life cases tell us that this "ideal" equality is often difficult to achieve.

In the Korean drama "Reply 1988", Duk Sun is the second child in the family. The older sister is a "school genius", while the younger sister is pretty and cute but seems to have no outstanding features, and is often ignored by her parents, intentionally or unintentionally.

Since she was a child, Duk Sun didn't even have her own birthday party. Many times she got angry and cried because of being treated unfairly.

In real life, many second children are in the same situation as Duk Sun, having to actively find their place in the family. They will gradually discover that only by becoming a good, considerate and considerate child can they win their parents' love and approval.

As a result, as they mature, these children tend to become more approachable and sensitive, can be deeply aware of the emotional states of others, and can take both sides in interpersonal relationships.

But as a parent, what you need to keep in mind is that behind the obedient, understanding second child is a heart that has long been neglected. They also need our care and love.

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Second children are more likely to succeed.

Psychologist Adler, who was also the second child in his family, once mentioned a point in his book "Inferiority and Transcendence": "Second children" in the world all have similar personality traits and are full of rebellious emotions on the outside but weak on the inside. With this understanding, these invisible children can easily develop extreme personalities.

Although the “middle child” in each family is likely to be overlooked, it cannot be denied that these “invisible children” often have a higher chance of success. Factors that can contribute to the success of the second child are often the following:

Factor 1: Stable personality

The famous psychologist Adler found through his many years of experience and psychological research that the middle child has the most stable personality. Compared to the first child who is given the responsibility of being the "big brother" from a young age and the youngest child who is overly pampered by the family, the second child, although easily "abandoned", is more comfortable, easy-going, and therefore has a more stable personality. Emotional stability is often one of the important factors leading to a person's success.

Factor 2: Strong Adaptability

In fact, compared with the pampered eldest and youngest children, the middle child in the family can quickly adapt to various situations to find his own place. Moreover, in order to find resources and opportunities, he becomes more independent. This will be very helpful for the survival and development of the second child in the future.

Factor 3: Better understanding of cooperation

Several studies have shown that middle children may have advantages in some areas that other siblings do not. For example, they tend to be more flexible and better at building cooperative relationships with others. Such traits can become valuable assets as they grow older.

In fact, true success and happiness come from personal effort and seizing opportunities. In this regard, the second child has an advantage.

Of course, parents are still the ones who have the greatest influence on their children. Although people are biased, they may not be able to level every bowl of water, but they must care for each child as much as possible. Only in this way can the "invisible" children not be harmed.

Above all, what really affects a child's achievement and destiny is not only birth order, but also the parents' educational methods, the growing environment and many other factors.

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