Walk with your child, don't live his life for him!

Accompany your child by listening, sharing and advising to help them make the best choice - Illustration: Q.DINH

A female student in Chau Doc ( An Giang ) who was reported missing since the end of the 10th grade entrance exam was found after more than two weeks of running away from home, luckily still safe.

The 9th grade girl traveled from An Giang to Dong Nai , rented a room by herself, and worked as a waitress at a coffee shop to survive. By the time the police found her, she did not want to return home even though her family had searched everywhere. The reason was because she was bored and did not want to study anymore, she asked to quit but her parents "forced" her to study, had to take the 10th grade entrance exam and had no other choice.

The story reminds me of a student in my son's class. The boy was in psychological shock when his mother suddenly passed away, forcing his father to decide to transfer his son to another school. Fortunately, he gradually became happier and more sociable in a completely unfamiliar environment, and his studies gradually stabilized, although he was sometimes reminded of his negligence. His father always accompanied his son.

Right before the 10th grade entrance exam in Ho Chi Minh City this year, he registered not to take the exam. He just wanted to learn a trade, loved cooking and wanted to become a chef.

His father agreed with his son's choice, not forcing him to take exams or continue studying, but letting him change direction after completing the 9th grade program.

So on the day of gratitude and adulthood, he came to take souvenir photos with the whole class and then went home, starting the summer vacation, while his friends went through the tearful entrance exam as seen.

How many children are growing up and are free to choose their own life and education and their parents fully respect it? There will never be an accurate statistic. Even 18-year-olds entering university sometimes do not have enough arguments to defend and choose the right major they love and are good at, let alone 9th graders.

We often receive information about children being forced to study or many students choosing schools and majors according to their parents' wishes and "children who disobey their parents will be spoiled in a hundred ways".

How many parents wonder if they have really listened to their children when they have the right to choose and believe that it is right? And how many adults have looked at their children's problems and events from their children's perspective or have consulted their children before making a decision?

Please try to ask yourself once. It is true that parents always want their children to be cared for most effectively, living in the best environment. But parents cannot live for their children because that is their life and future. Accompanying children is not just a familiar word or catchphrase, and is not just said for fun.

Start by listening, sharing and advising from the parents’ experiences but need to refer to and look through the children’s lens. They need to live their own lives, not to replace or continue the unfinished dreams of their parents.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/dong-hanh-cung-con-dung-song-thay-cuoc-doi-con-2024061909281747.htm