In any "miniature society," what emerges early is often not morality, but power. Children, like adults, quickly recognize who is stronger, who is weaker, and who is more vulnerable to bullying. Without guidance from family and school, classrooms easily operate according to herd mentality: the strong become stronger through the silence of the majority, while the victims are gradually pushed into isolation. Sadly, many adults still view school violence with disdain. They believe it's just children quarreling and that everything will pass. But for a teenager, honor, shame, and the feeling of being belittled in front of their peers can become incredibly deep psychological wounds. Adults often judge things with mature reason, while children perceive the world almost entirely through emotion. A repeated threat every day, or a contemptuous glance in class, is terrifying for them.

Preventing and combating school violence, ensuring school security and safety. (Illustrative image: baochinhphu.vn)

Even more frightening is that many children don't dare tell their parents for fear of bothering them, don't dare tell their teachers for fear of retaliation, and don't dare resist for fear of becoming the laughing stock of the group. They choose silence, and adults mistakenly believe that silence is normal. But sometimes, that is a worrying sign.

So how can we eliminate school violence, and how can we ensure that every day at school is a joyful one for our children?

Only when adults stop downplaying children's vulnerability can we prevent tragedies early on. Schools must truly become protectors of the most vulnerable students. Teachers cannot simply be transmitters of lessons; they must also be able to recognize unusual changes in students' psychology: a child suddenly becoming less talkative, more afraid to go to class, frequently withdrawn, or showing signs of prolonged anxiety. Many tragedies could have been prevented if adults had listened in time. Families cannot stand idly by either. Many parents care more about their children's grades than their feelings. Do they know who their child is afraid of in class, what they are being hurt by, or whether they are feeling lonely? A child will only truly dare to seek help when they believe they will be listened to instead of being reprimanded or belittled.

Most importantly, children need to be taught compassion and courage. A good classroom is not only determined by the teacher but also by the students' attitudes towards one another. Many prolonged acts of violence are not solely due to the bully, but also because too many people stand by in silence. When the silence of the crowd inadvertently abets evil, the victims become even more desperate. No one can transform a school into an absolutely perfect world, because wherever there are people, there will always be conflict and clashes. The deepest purpose of education is not just to create excellent students, but to help people grow up without losing their sense of self-worth and their worthiness to be protected.

    Source: https://www.qdnd.vn/van-hoa/doi-song/bao-luc-trong-xa-hoi-thu-nho-1040572