Help your child cope with the emotional distress when their idol falls from grace.

Young people often idolize someone. An idol can also be a beautiful symbol, a source of motivation that encourages young people to strive and work harder.

Illustration: DANG HONG QUAN

The allure of idols can have a significant suggestive effect. Ms. Hoa (residing in Di An, Binh Duong ) shared: "My child also has a bit of musical talent. She greatly admires singer Q., so she actively practices singing songs performed by the female singer. Our family fully supports her in developing this talent."

And it's not just about admiring the glamorous images; watching their idols do charity work, readily going to disadvantaged areas to support those in need, further inspires young people's compassion and willingness to share.

Nothing compares to the sadness of a day of utter collapse.

However, if one day your child's idol is no longer the same (involved in scandals, or worse, engaging in illegal activities), the beautiful image in the child's eyes suddenly collapses completely. The consequences of an idol's downfall are enormous.

Some young people are unable to control their emotions, leading to depression, loss of appetite, insomnia, sadness, regret, and even negative behaviors.

T.Trang (17 years old, residing in Bien Hoa, Dong Nai ) has been depressed, withdrawn, and unwilling to communicate with her parents since hearing the news that her favorite singer, D., was involved in legal troubles.

Trang admired the talent of this musician and singer, who not only sang well but also composed songs that appealed to young people. Thanh Giang (16 years old, residing in District 2, Ho Chi Minh City) also admired singer D. Her room was filled with pictures of this singer, and she collected songs performed by D. Therefore, Giang was heartbroken and decided to get rid of all the pictures and delete all the songs she had saved on her phone...

When the image of an idol crumbles, many young people, feeling hopeless, resort to self-punishment and boycotting the group of friends who shared the idol's image. Furthermore, negative emotions can distort the true nature of the situation, leading to discouragement, sadness, sentimentality, and in many cases, dissatisfaction and suffering.

To lessen the shock when an idol's career falls apart.

Having gone through their own teenage years, parents can certainly empathize with their children; overcoming a "trauma" isn't easy. Because of this empathy, parents should avoid doing anything that could further hurt their children. Parents should empathize with their children, acknowledge their feelings, and gradually help them learn how to control and manage their behavior to achieve emotional balance.

To prevent children from becoming obsessed with idols, parents need to be close to their children from the beginning, pay attention to their interests and needs, and build trust so that children feel comfortable sharing about their idols.

Talk and discuss idols more with your children, so they understand that idols are just idols and shouldn't be idolized to the point of blind devotion.

And when a child's idol falls from grace for any reason, parents need to understand and support them through this emotional shock. Encourage them to participate in beneficial sports , travel, and recreational activities to help them cope with the disappointment caused by their idol.

If possible, parents should guide their children towards positive art forms such as music, painting, and film, suitable for their age, talents, and interests, as well as their idols. Parents also need to regularly monitor and regulate their children's leisure time, preventing them from becoming overly obsessed with idols and neglecting their studies and other activities.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/giup-con-bot-suy-sup-khi-than-tuong-sup-do-20241201101435002.htm