She doesn't deserve to be here...

The son-in-law posted the story online, sparking intense debate. Ultimately, who is the victim and who is to blame in this story?

The mother-in-law is demanding back 100 gold bars she lent for building the villa when prices were at their peak.

A 35-year-old man surnamed Qin from Xinjiang, China, posted his story on the social media platform Weibo, sparking controversy. Bystanders sided with the son-in-law, while others criticized the mother-in-law and wife. It remains unclear who is right or wrong in this story, both emotionally and logically.

My mother-in-law is demanding the return of the gold she lent me 10 years ago, when the price of gold had risen to around 28,000 yuan per tael (nearly 100 million VND). A record high! But this is nothing compared to the secrets she's been hiding. My wife is acting clueless. I want to kick her out of the house immediately… I'm incredibly hurt to see my feelings and efforts over the years exploited and treated with such contempt.

Vét thùng đưa hết cho con rể 100 cây vàng xây biệt thự, 10 năm sau mẹ vợ oà khóc khi bị đuổi khỏi nhà: — *The mother-in-law lent gold to her daughter and son-in-law. (Illustrative image.)*

The story is that in 2015, after hearing that my wife and I intended to build a house, my mother-in-law proactively gave my wife all the gold she had saved, about 100 taels. She said that we didn't need the gold, that it was a loan, and we could repay it whenever we could, without any pressure. My wife already had a plot of land when we got married, and my mother-in-law said she would give it to us.

I was so happy and very grateful to my mother-in-law. That was also part of the reason why, later on, when the house was built, I welcomed her to live with me and took care of her wholeheartedly.

We planned to build a large house with a garden because I had about 2.8 million yuan (10 billion VND) – including our savings after 5 years of marriage, loans, and money from my parents. However, after receiving an additional 100 gold bars from my mother-in-law and advice from a friend who studied architecture, I decided to build a grand villa instead. That was also my dream when I was studying at Harbin Industrial University.

Then we built a villa. After this family property was completed, my wife gave birth to our third child. Wanting to earn more income, pay off debts, and provide the best life for my family, I accepted a company transfer to supervise construction overseas. I still came home, but only every few months or during holidays. Every day, I kept the romance alive by communicating by phone. I regularly sent money and gifts to my mother and wife, and supported my wife's sister's university education, etc.

Conversely, I left all the housework and childcare to my wife. That's because I'm too busy, and besides, I trust the people in my family.

At the end of 2024, I returned permanently to work in my hometown, as most of the projects overseas have stabilized. I also wanted to return home because it had been almost 10 years since I started working far away from my family, my wife and children, and now our finances are much more stable. My wife, in the last few years now that the children are older, has also started selling things online, and she's earning a decent income.

My mother-in-law has a pension and money from my family, but she hasn't saved much because her daughter – who is also my wife's sister – went on to get a master's degree, graduated but couldn't find a job, yet she's still demanding that her mother buy her everything from designer clothes and handbags to a car and a house.

I only just found out about it myself.

For the past few months, my sister-in-law has been visiting frequently. Each time she comes, she goes into my mother-in-law's room and talks for a long time. However, due to my busy work schedule, I didn't pay much attention until last week, after dinner, when my mother-in-law suddenly said she had something to tell me. She said, "I want back the 100 gold bars I lent you two." I was stunned…

Of course, if you borrow, you have to repay, but I'm not ready yet, and more importantly, why are you asking for it back at this time, when the price of gold is at a record high, reaching around 28,000 yuan per tael (nearly 100 million VND)?

Then I don't know where the money will come from. For the past few years, I've been working my back off to provide for my family, including my mother-in-law. Now all three children are attending international school, which is very expensive.

My mother-in-law was so unreasonable that she demanded my wife and I pay her back in gold, all 100 taels at once. No matter how much I begged her to postpone it, she wouldn't agree. After arguing back and forth, my mother-in-law suddenly blurted out that she wanted to give the gold as a dowry for her younger daughter – my wife's sister.

But that wasn't all; I was even more shocked to learn that the land on which my wife and I built this huge villa was still registered in my mother's name. If we didn't return the gold on time, she would transfer the entire property to her younger daughter.

Enraged, the son-in-law chased his mother-in-law out of the house: The argument is far from over.

That's so cruel. Doesn't she feel any guilt for saying that? And where are we going to live? Where are we going to get the money to pay 100 gold bars all at once? I feel like I've been cheated after 17 years as a son-in-law in this house and 10 years working far away, supporting my wife's family, only to be treated so heartlessly. When I turned to my wife, she just cried. To be honest, she's only an adopted daughter, but she always treated her like her own mother. She treated us very well, so I never doubted her.

My wife said that when she borrowed the money, she didn't specify a repayment date because she never thought her mother would suddenly demand it back. The same goes for the land we're living on; she just thought it was her mother and let it slide. Oh my God, there's no greater folly than this! My mother-in-law is truly outrageous. She completely changed her attitude, determined to get the money back despite my wife crying until she almost fainted.

This house is not just the result of our hard work and sweat, but also the dream of my wife and me. We live in a villa, but no one knows what we went through to get to where we are today. Perhaps, I think my mother-in-law should understand at least some of it, yet she is so heartless.

Furious, I packed my bags, dragged my mother-in-law out of the house despite her crying and even calling the neighbors over to say I was unfilial. No matter what anyone says, you only know what's really going on inside a blanket when you're under it.

I also spoke frankly to my wife so she wouldn't feel guilty: "She doesn't deserve to be here, facing you and our children. For the past 10 years, we've taken care of her every single day. For the past 10 years, I've sacrificed our children's childhood and spent days away from my family to earn money. I'm tired and suffering too. And now you want to take it all away like that? I'll consider her as if she doesn't exist as a mother."

However, my mother-in-law wouldn't let it go. She kept bringing my sister-in-law over to demand the land and gold. I'm going crazy. I haven't done anything wrong; my family paid for the construction. She said she'd pay back the gold whenever she had it, but now she's demanding it back urgently when the price of gold is at a record high. Then she should return the money she's spent living in my house for the past few years. The money I sent her monthly, the money she paid for hospital visits, and so on...

Our relationship is now completely ruined. Yesterday, she even threatened my wife and me that if we didn't pay, she would call the police.

After the article was posted on social media, it quickly received a lot of attention from netizens. Many comments debated who was right and who was wrong in the story above. Because everyone has their own troubles. The issue of borrowing gold, land, or villas cannot be resolved on the basis of emotions alone, and may even involve legal issues.

"The mistake here is placing too much emphasis on emotions. Both the mother who lent the gold and the child who borrowed it were too considerate and indecisive, resulting in the loss of both friendship and loyalty. Of course, if you borrow, you have to repay, but wouldn't it have been better to set a specific repayment date at the time? Now, her demanding it back isn't wrong, it's just that it's not fair. She gave 100 taels of gold all at once; should she really divide it up to repay later?"

It's also impossible to mention the idea of letting the mother-in-law live with them, taking care of her, or giving her money, because that's voluntary and also part of the children's responsibility.

"And then there's the matter of the villa and land. I don't understand how they could build a house without even having the land title in hand from the beginning. But on the other hand, the mother is clearly in the wrong; she got the gold and now she's demanding the house and land too, that's terrible,"... This is a netizen's comment that attracted a high level of interaction.

Everyone unanimously advised the son-in-law to find a suitable solution and not speak rashly, such as hiring a lawyer for advice or sitting down to discuss the matter with his mother-in-law.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/vet-thung-dua-het-cho-con-re-100-cay-vang-xay-biet-thu-10-nam-sau-me-vo-oa-khoc-khi-bi-duoi-khoi-nha-ba-khong-xung-de-o-day-172250324202619183.htm