Recently, a Chinese girl studying in Germany wrote: "My mother blocked me because I didn't want to go back to China" which attracted the attention of netizens in this country. After reading it, I only felt bitter. Both sides have their own arguments and "selfishness".
The girl said that she is the only daughter in the family, currently studying abroad in Germany. Because she is familiar with the environment in this Western country, after graduating she wants to stay in Germany to work and not return home.
Her parents contacted her by phone, hoping that she would return to China to find a job and did not want her to live abroad. Since then, the two sides have had conflicts, both of them are adamant in their opinions and refuse to give in.
Image of a girl traveling while studying abroad in Germany
The mother was so angry that her daughter did not want to return that she blacklisted her on the messaging app and announced that she would cut off her tuition and living expenses. However, the girl still did not want to return home and was planning to earn her own living after graduating from university. At this point, it seemed that the relationship between mother and daughter had reached a dead end.
"What should we do when our parents can't walk anymore?"
“What if my parents get sick?”
"Don't learn such selfish habits."
“I worked hard to raise you, never letting you suffer any hardship, now you have become like this, how can I repay my parents?”
These are the mother's words expressed through the text message conversation that the girl shared.
Then, the girl replied: “It’s up to you, Mom. If you don’t see me as your daughter, I have no other choice. From now on, I will be self-reliant. You are still the parents I love. I hope you both stay healthy.”
“I don't need you first. Let's block each other,” the girl's mother ended the conversation.
In the opinion of the girl's parents, just providing for her to study abroad in Germany is enough. If they live in Germany, they will not be able to rely on their daughter when she is old. The parents think that they will not be able to rely on their daughter in the future. Is this way of thinking of the parents too selfish? Is the girl's decision cruel?
Because she loved the living environment in Germany, the girl did not want to return home, but her mother tried her best to persuade her. Because of her own ideals, she firmly refused to compromise with her parents. Was this girl's idea correct?
The girl's post on the Xiaohongshu platform attracted a huge amount of interaction with thousands of comments.
Some people say the girl's parents are too conservative, raising their child only to support themselves when they are old.
“Reading the messages from my mother about her old age made me panic. She had already announced the responsibility to take care of it.”
Many people think that the girl's parents are just trying to lure their daughter back to the country, and that the mother's words may not reflect her true feelings and thoughts.
Many people do not know how to comment on this situation, because everyone has their own point of view. Parents do not want their children to go far away from home, afraid of losing them; daughters want to live far away, be independent and close to support but are not given.
And you, what do you think about this girl's family conflict?
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