In each family, the feelings of grandparents for their grandchildren are often very different. However, in my family, this discrimination has become so obvious that the reason my mother-in-law gave was ridiculous: "The grandchildren are close by, we take care of them every day, the grandchildren only come home occasionally, the daughters are also at a disadvantage compared to the sons."
There were times when the children played together and argued, but my grandmother just yelled at my child, saying that if he was too big and didn't know how to give in to his younger sibling, then as the older brother, he should know how to protect his younger sister.
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That day, my brother-in-law's family came to visit, my mother-in-law went to the market and bought her niece a very pretty dress, but her nephew - my son - only got a bag of chips. My son was a bit curious, when he asked, she said: "Boys can't wear dresses, why do you want them?" Those words made me feel very unfair to my child, even though I know that toys or clothes cannot bring true happiness, they are still symbols of care.
Not wanting him to think, I told him: "That's right, only girls wear dresses, you still like fish chips. I knew you liked them so I bought them. Use scissors to cut them neatly and pour them into a bowl, you two can eat them together". After saying that, I took the flattened chip wrapper and gave it to my son and continued to instruct him: "Keep it, son, put it in your collection of chip wrappers every time I buy them. When the box is full, we can make a handmade souvenir."
Although I was laughing as I spoke, my mother-in-law’s expression was not happy. She clearly understood the hidden meaning behind my words. She smiled awkwardly, perhaps not thinking that I would keep the potato chip wrappers as a reminder of this unfair discrimination. She probably couldn’t remember how many times she had bought potato chips for her grandchild, but for me and my son, each potato chip wrapper contained a whole emotional story.
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I understand that my mother-in-law loves all her grandchildren, but sometimes, she does not realize that her actions unintentionally create discrimination, hurting the feelings in the family. Hopefully, from small things like this, she will recognize and change the way she loves to be more fair, so that each grandchild can feel the boundless love from their grandparents.
And I - a daughter-in-law living with my mother-in-law, believe that I also have the responsibility to educate my children about the meaning of care and fairness. I wish to build my family on the foundation of sincere love and equality, where there are no grandchildren, only boundless love.
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