(Fatherland) - Remembering, believing, and loving students is something precious and the boundless happiness of teachers.
A mother in Ho Chi Minh City joined the discussion about giving gifts on Vietnamese Teachers' Day in her child's class group. The majority agreed to "go" to the teachers with envelopes, and spend an extra portion to buy candy for the children.
When everything seemed to be settled, this parent was "unhappy" because she thought that the class fund should be used for class activities. So, in frustration, she posted all the conversations between all the parents on a social media group, causing people to gossip.
If you find this "scenario" too familiar, don't be surprised, because you are not the only one. Every year, when the holidays come, teachers become the topic, in some not-so-honorable stories, it is about gifts. They "sit around doing nothing" and suddenly get hit, sometimes even "used" in all kinds of ways, as if they are the source of the parents' turmoil. Try putting yourself in the position of those who educate your children, do you feel happy and comfortable?
Remembering, believing, and loving in the hearts of students is a precious thing, a boundless happiness for teachers.
The issue of gifts is sensitive, the more we discuss it, the more it will hurt the teachers' self-esteem... As a parent commented in the above story, if the mother is not satisfied, she should talk directly to the class's parents' association, and if she is still not satisfied, she should withdraw the class's paid-in fund, and not bring it to the school newspaper to file a lawsuit or expose it on social media.
The class is fine if it lacks 1 dong in the class fund. But spreading the word, without even covering up names or personal information, not only affects the parents in the class but also the teachers who are directly teaching the children, and further, affects the whole school.
"The head teacher did nothing wrong, the majority of parents agreed, but you took a picture and posted it like this. It's really uncivilized. Suddenly, immature children are affected by the "reputation" brought by adults. From the teacher's perspective, no one would like this topic to be discussed publicly," this person said.
November 20 envelopes can be a financial "burden" for many parents (mostly imposed by parents, no teacher asks for it), but sometimes, it is a psychological burden for teachers. Receiving them is sometimes "pouted", thought to be "just waiting for this". Refusing them is afraid of being considered "snobbish", of criticizing the gift for too little or too much. How many people give gifts out of gratitude, out of love, gratitude, or just "lose money" to ask for the teacher's attention and care for their children in return?
In fact, many teachers wish not to receive gifts on this day to avoid "hesitation", which could upset parents and put themselves in an awkward situation.
Mr. Ha Dinh Luc, a math teacher in Hanoi, said that parents are not only worried about paying tuition for their children but also thinking about giving gifts to the school and teachers, which is too much work. Not to mention that parents have to pay tuition for teachers to teach their children, so having to go back and forth to give gifts to teachers is really not logical;
As a teacher, I always feel that there are still many shortcomings in teaching children, that I can do better and need to gradually adjust in the following school years. Therefore, I feel guilty and uncomfortable receiving gifts from parents; Teachers themselves are also very tired on November 20 because of too many ceremonies and movements from performing arts, teaching topics...
Mr. Ha Dinh Luc
"We say that November 20 is for students, parents and society to show gratitude to teachers, but that is actually quite forced. If society wants to show gratitude to teachers, it should find ways to increase salaries and improve working conditions for teachers. The best way for parents to show gratitude to teachers is to cooperate with teachers to teach their children.
If you want students to understand the work of teachers, first teachers must be enthusiastic, wholeheartedly teach, and love, then students will naturally develop respect for and love for their teachers.
Congratulating and giving gifts should come from true respect, and if there is any, it should happen after the teacher has stopped teaching the children. Therefore, it is more appropriate to have November 20th for retired teachers. If we just follow the trend and do it unnaturally, it will affect the respect and cooperation of students and parents for the school and teachers."
After many years as a teacher, many years of experiencing all the emotions of November 20, Ms. Ngo Thi Thuy Nga, Literature teacher at Nghi Loc 3 High School ( Nghe An ) also commented:
In the hustle and bustle of life, having more holidays means people have more excuses to slow down, get closer, care and love each other more. This is also a necessary and precious thing to do. Respecting teachers is also a fine tradition of our nation for thousands of years.
Ms. Ngo Thi Thuy Nga and students
However, Ms. Nga also added: "I always agree with the opinion in an article, that: Teachers do not need to be honored. Teachers need students to follow their teachings, that is the true happiness of a teacher! Moreover, remembering, believing, and loving in the hearts of students is something precious, it is the boundless happiness of teachers. Most teachers always follow every step of their students, on every path of life.
And of course, teachers always want to see you again, after months of separation. But we can do this on countless other occasions, such as Tet, the days when students return to school, when we miss our teachers... Or by text messages, phone calls to ask how we are... That is already warm enough," said Ms. Nga.
Source: https://toquoc.vn/20-11-dung-noi-chuyen-qua-cap-gi-cao-xa-phu-huynh-chi-lam-duoc-1-dieu-nay-la-thay-co-da-biet-on-nhieu-lam-20241120103555764.htm
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