The story posted on the Toutiao forum (China's social network) attracted attention when sharing the story of Ms. Hong Tam:
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My name is Hong Tam, I am 55 years old, I just retired a few months ago, then my daughter-in-law gave me a difficult problem. After my daughter-in-law gave birth, she did not go to work but stayed home to take care of the child. Her mother-in-law did not help, and my daughter-in-law often asked me for money to spend.
At that time, I refused to give her money. Now that I have retired, my daughter-in-law is even more heartless, asking me to take care of my grandchild or give her 5,000 yuan (about 18 million VND) in monthly living expenses.
The daughter-in-law said that my grandson is our family's child and grandchild. The 5,000 NDT (about 18 million VND) living allowance is not only for my grandson but also to repay the help of my in-laws.
I could only tell my daughter-in-law that I did not have the money to meet this request right now. My daughter-in-law angrily told me on the phone: “You live alone, have nothing to do, do not take care of your grandchildren, but do not give me money?”
I was so angry that I hung up the phone and called my son, telling him to tell his wife not to bother me. I would list what I had to go through and what I was thinking.
1. I worked hard for half my life, after my son's wedding, my savings were all gone.
My husband and I have been busy for half our lives and all our savings were spent on our son's wedding. We bought a house for our son, in his name. Since the house was bought before my son got married, my daughter-in-law later demanded an exorbitant amount of dowry.
My daughter-in-law always said that she lived in a house without her name and felt insecure. Then she gave a specific number.
When my son got married, my husband was not very happy with his daughter-in-law. However, our son insisted on marrying this girl, so we had to agree. We gave our daughter-in-law a gift worth 288,000 yuan (about 1 billion VND) and 100,000 yuan (about 357 million VND) for my grandchildren in the future.
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After my son got married, my daughter-in-law was very normal to us. During Tet and other holidays, they only had one meal at home on New Year's Eve and then returned to their own homes.
A year after my son got married, my husband passed away. At that time, my daughter-in-law also told my son to come back and share the household chores with me.
From then on, I started thinking about myself. My son was married, had his own family, and no longer depended on me. In the coming years, what I could rely on was a healthy body and a clear mind. Sooner or later, I would take the initiative to go to a nursing home.
2. After retirement, my daughter-in-law gave me two options, take care of my grandchildren or provide money.
2 years ago, my daughter-in-law gave birth and asked me for 30,000 NDT (about 107 million VND), I immediately responded and said that when my son got married, we had prepared the money and given it to my daughter-in-law.
My daughter-in-law quit her job to stay home and take care of the children. She often tells my son to come back and ask for money and living expenses under the name of my nephew. I told my son straight that he doesn't need to come back to visit his mother, nor does he need to ask for money.
I applied for retirement last October but before I could receive my pension, my daughter-in-law came to make things difficult for me again. This time, she asked me to choose between taking care of my grandchild or providing money for the child.
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If I don’t want to take care of my grandson, I have to pay 5,000 yuan (about 18 million VND) every month. And this 5,000 yuan (about 18 million VND) fee is not only used by my grandson but also used to repay my mother-in-law’s help.
Seeing my daughter-in-law always come to me just for money, I was helpless and could only directly refuse again.
My daughter-in-law continued to give me a trump card condition: either she would not give me any pension or she would divorce my son so that we would never see our grandchild again. Faced with such a daughter-in-law, I could only say, "Do as you wish."
3. Think about yourself
It's not that I don't want my son to live well, it's just that I can't stand a daughter-in-law like that. My daughter-in-law and mother-in-law always say bad things about me.
With such a son and daughter-in-law, can I expect them to support me in my old age? The only person I can rely on is myself so I have to save money for myself and find companions for my old age.
I just retired, my daughter-in-law made many demands on me, forcing me to make choices, even using inappropriate words with me. It's not that I'm narrow-minded or ignorant, but I live very clearly, soberly and never compromise.
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If I meet a sensible daughter-in-law, of course I will contribute money and effort. Everything will go smoothly if the family is harmonious, the mother-in-law is kind, and the daughter-in-law is good.
A daughter-in-law like that, a son who has no opinion either. One can live a good life in the later years of life, as long as we have something to do and enough money to retire.
No matter what, my heart is still steadfast, relying on myself. I will live a happy and wonderful life by myself!
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/55-tuoi-vua-nghi-huu-nghe-toi-hau-thu-chon-cham-chau-hay-dua-cho-con-dau-18-trieu-dong-thang-toi-lang-nguoi-dua-ra-quyet-dinh-danh-thep-172240528145834989.htm
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