Being 'gutted' by children, regretting spoiling them

This woman regrets realizing too late the importance of money in old age.

The story was shared on China's social networking site Baidu and received great attention from netizens.

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My name is Liu Jia (66 years old), born and raised in a poor, backward rural area in China.

In the past, because my mother wanted to change her family's poor fate, she went to a matchmaker in the hope of introducing me to a husband from the city.

Soon after, I was introduced to my husband, a man from a good family background, both of whose parents were factory workers. He is 4 years older than me and currently has a stable job.

At that time, my whole family was very happy that I would be marrying into the city into a family with such conditions. I was also very surprised and wondered why they agreed to marry a daughter-in-law from the countryside who was quite normal like me.

And then, after getting married, I learned the truth. It turned out that my husband had been married to a city person, they had been together for 2 years but had no children.

Furthermore, his ex-wife was very lazy, refused to work and often shirked housework, causing tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and in the end, they couldn't bear it and had to divorce.

After that, my husband was introduced to a few women in the city but they were not satisfied, and finally their family decided to go back to the countryside to choose a hard-working and gentle daughter-in-law.

At first, when I knew the reason my husband married me, I was very sad. I felt as if I was an item, only brought back to work hard and serve the family.

However, after living together for a while, I discovered that my husband's family is very nice. Although sometimes my mother-in-law is a bit difficult, she always cares about my feelings and has never been too harsh.

After getting married, I quickly became pregnant and gave birth to a healthy baby boy. From then on, my status in the family increased dramatically, my in-laws and husband loved and pampered me very much.

And 2 years later, I gave birth to a lovely daughter for the whole family. Compared to my mother's family, where my mother prefers boys over girls, I am really happy living in my husband's house.

My mother-in-law gradually let me take charge of the family, and my husband also took care of and shared with the obedient children who grew up every day.

After my parents retired, they arranged for me to work at the neighborhood office. My monthly income was enough to comfortably take care of my small family and myself.

I am very grateful to my parents-in-law and wholeheartedly supported and cared for them in their last years.

After my husband's parents passed away, my small family's life still went on smoothly. Even though he was getting older, my husband still took care of me and shared with me, making me happy every day.

Major events in life....

However, an unexpected incident happened when 5 years ago my husband became seriously ill and despite all efforts to save him, he could not survive.

Before he passed away, my husband told me to keep my savings of 800,000 yuan (over 2.8 billion VND) carefully, not to tell the children so that they can work hard. This is the money that my husband and I worked hard for our whole lives, my husband wanted me to keep it carefully so that when we are old, we will have something to rely on.

After my husband passed away, I retired and received more than 3,000 yuan (about 10.5 million VND) in pension every month.

My children are married and have their own families, so I live alone and am free. Sometimes I go shopping, chat with friends, and sometimes I travel alone when I feel like it.

People were jealous of my carefree lifestyle, many even criticized me for being wasteful. My children also advised me to travel less alone and maybe move in with them to help take care of the house, cook, and take care of the grandson.

I openly shared with my children about my large savings and monthly pension so that they would not have to worry about me. However, this was the decision that I regret the most in my life.

When the children heard that I had such a large amount of savings, their eyes lit up and they kept praising their parents for being so good at saving so much money.

At first, I didn't think much of it, but then my family tragedy began. My son came home and asked me for money so he could buy a new, bigger and more spacious house. He told me to pay the deposit of 300,000 yuan (about 1.1 billion VND) first so that his children could have a better life.

Immediately, my daughter also came home and said she wanted to change her car and wanted me to support her with 100,000 yuan (more than 350 million VND). At that time, I agreed to give it to my children with the hope that they will have a better life. However, human greed is bottomless, after successfully asking me for money the first time, my children continuously asked for money a second and a third time.

After getting the money from me, the children were all extremely filial, taking care of their mother meticulously down to every detail, which made me feel comfortable and happy every day.

However, after knowing that I had spent almost all my savings, my children turned their backs on me and gradually became cold and distant towards me.

Unfortunately, I got sick and had to undergo surgery and was hospitalized, spending all the money I had. I realized that I was getting old and had to depend on my children and grandchildren.

But when I said I wanted to come live with my children, they both gave reasons to refuse me, not wanting me to come live with them.

I feel angry and helpless with my children's attitude. I decided to tell them that I didn't need anyone to take care of me and to hire a nanny for me. However, my children said that they could not afford the nanny's salary and daily living expenses and wanted me to go to a nursing home.

My son planned to take me to the suburbs because the nursing home there was cheap, just enough for my salary and they didn't need to provide too much.

I was really sad and angry at my child's attitude towards me. I was determined not to go to a nursing home because I knew that going there was a miniature society, with many problems and I could not live comfortably.

Faced with my children's indifference, I realized that in old age, I must not depend on my children and grandchildren but must be financially independent. Now I deeply understand my husband's advice and regret revealing the money I saved for my own children.

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