Teachers under pressure because of... parents

Recently, the results of "Research on the lives of teachers in the Southern region: Experiments in Binh Thuan , Tay Ninh and Hau Giang provinces" conducted by the Institute for Policy Development of Ho Chi Minh City National University showed that teachers face great pressure from parents. Up to 70.21% of teachers said that they are under pressure or very pressure from parents; 40.63% of teachers have intended to change careers due to mental violence from parents...

The researchers interviewed 132 educational administrators and teachers at all levels and conducted a large-scale survey of 12,505 teachers in the three above-mentioned localities last September and October.

Thanh Nien reporters recorded true stories in reality.

DEMANDING DISCIPLINE FOR TEACHER FOR NOT ASSISTING STUDENTS GOING TO THE TOILET

"Why is the classroom so small?", a parent whose child is in grade 6 (a public school in Ho Chi Minh City) questioned the principal on the first day of school. At a public primary school in the center of Ho Chi Minh City, a parent complained to the teacher why the classroom had no air conditioning, projector, or television. The principal had to discuss with all the parents that this was a public school, and due to budget constraints, it could only provide the minimum equipment necessary for teaching and learning.

Many kindergartens are now equipped with cameras to increase transparency, but many parents also "watch" the cameras, find fault with teachers and school staff, and put more pressure on teachers.

PHOTO: DAO NGOC THACH

Speaking to Thanh Nien reporter, this principal said that along with the modernization of society, parents of students are increasingly interested in and accompanying their children in their studies, and that is a good sign. Many parents are active, working with teachers to build effective and happy schools. However, there are also some parents who put too much pressure on their children and teachers. Many people have excessive demands on the team of teachers and school staff.

"A parent reacted very harshly to me, demanding disciplinary action against the first grade homeroom teacher because... the teacher did not go to the toilet to help the students when they went to the toilet in school. Right from the first grade environment familiarization activity, we instructed the children about the toilet area, safety procedures, and we also said that elementary school is not like kindergarten, the homeroom teacher cannot both teach and take care of toilet support for more than 30 students in the class, but this parent refused. The first grade teacher that year was so tired that she asked to transfer jobs," the principal said.

Or there are parents who even interfere in the communication between students in class. The principal shared that once a parent rushed into the school during dismissal time and told his child: "Show me which child hit you, I will deal with it." Or the parent heard the child say something in class about the teacher or friends, but without asking the homeroom teacher to find out the whole story, the parent immediately called the principal, demanding to deal with the teacher, school staff, and demanding to deal with the student for "threatening" their child...

Caring too much about students can also lead to questions.

A secondary school teacher in Ho Chi Minh City said that in order to perform well in professional tasks, meet increasingly high requirements in work, apply digital transformation in teaching, and effectively implement the 2018 General Education Program, every teacher is very stressed, must continuously learn and cannot avoid pressure. However, the pressure from professional matters is nothing compared to the difficulties that teachers encounter in the process of interacting with parents, students, and handling students who violate discipline...

"There are parents who say "everything depends on the teacher", but when the teacher is strict with the student, they do not accept it and react to the teacher. In some cases, I feel that parents and the school have not found a common voice. When a problem occurs, parents do not choose to meet directly with the homeroom teacher to discuss but choose solutions such as posting the story on the parent group to discuss, then posting it on social networks without knowing whether it is right or wrong, true or false," this female teacher shared.

The teacher added that when students first enter grade 6, each new teacher will need to observe and monitor the learning outcomes as well as the attitudes and behaviors of the students. When seeing something unusual, the teacher needs to skillfully communicate with the parents so that they can take their children for a medical examination and health assessment. However, some parents, when talking to the teacher, think that the teacher is discriminating against their children. Some even say: "Why do you always pay attention to my child? What do you mean by asking him/her like that?". Many times like that, the female teacher becomes afraid and does not know how to ask about and care for the student...

The principal of a primary school in District 1, Ho Chi Minh City, said that the school always hopes to receive constructive comments from parents. However, there are some parents who scrutinize and find fault with the school and teachers. When talking to their children's teachers, they even use condescending language...

EXPECTING TRUST AND UNDERSTANDING FROM PARENTS

Ms. Vo Bao Dao Diem, Principal of Nguyen Thi Thap Secondary School, District 7, Ho Chi Minh City, said that at the beginning of each school year, she often meets and discusses with parents about the school's goals and tasks, the most important of which is the comprehensive development of the children. Besides many lovely parents who always accompany and make positive contributions to the school's development, creating spiritual resources for the team, there are still a few parents who do not "understand".

Parents work with schools to create a happy learning environment

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Therefore, the message that Ms. Diem sent to parents is to always trust the school. Trust is an important glue for the relationship between family and school.

"We hope that parents will understand the difficulties and hardships of the teaching profession today. In addition to teaching hours in class, teachers have to handle a series of unnamed tasks. In addition to improving and updating knowledge to perform well the role of teachers, each teacher also has to manage the classroom, care for students in terms of learning quality, physical and mental health. Each class has about 40 students, each student has a different personality, the challenge for teachers is very big. To accompany teachers, we hope that parents sympathize, understand, and share. If the school is happy, the students must be happy, the teachers must be happy. The role of parents in creating this is not small," Ms. Vo Bao Dao Diem confided. (to be continued)

Teachers are "bullied" in both real life and on social networks.

The press has reported many cases of teachers being "bullied" in real life and on social networks. Thanh Nien newspaper has published the opinions of many preschool teachers saying that they were under pressure when their parents posted "accusations" of teachers on social networks. In May 2023, when assigning a student average conduct after many violations, teacher VTKQ (Dak Glong district, Dak Nong ) was assaulted by a parent at home. Before that, this parent had called many times and used insulting words to teacher VTKQ. And in October 2023, the Vice Principal of Ham Tan High School (Binh Thuan) was beaten by parents and some strangers who broke into his house, breaking his nose and causing his eyelids to droop, requiring him to go to the emergency room...

Parents put pressure ON their children, and also put pressure on teachers?

Ms. QT, a parent with a child studying at a primary and secondary school in District 1, Ho Chi Minh City, shared: "It must be said that in reality, there are many teachers who are really strange, but there are also many parents who are very strange and often find fault with teachers. Parents need to accompany teachers in the process of teaching and caring for their children, and should not defend their children too much. Because more than anyone else, we must understand our children's personalities. If we see our children making mistakes, we must scold our children first, not scold the teachers."

Ms. TN, a parent living in District 3, Ho Chi Minh City, frankly said: "Many parents today force their children to take extra classes, all week, from Monday to Sunday, and evening classes until 9-10 pm. Parents increase pressure and expectations on their children, which in turn increases pressure on their children's teachers. Therefore, when parents reduce pressure on their children, they also help reduce some of the pressure on teachers."

Source: https://thanhnien.vn/giao-vien-ap-luc-vi-phu-huynh-185241204154852588.htm