I want to share the story of a student that I admire very much as a message to parents: "Give your child a chance to speak up!"
To accompany their children, parents should give them the opportunity to speak up and talk frankly about the difficulties they are facing.
She texted me about her desire to switch from the math team to the literature team at the beginning of the school year. She felt like she was getting tired because the other players on the team, who had been honed since elementary school, were too fast, too good, and too excellent.
I am extremely pleased to welcome my child back to his strong subject - literature. Because I am extremely impressed by the polished and creative writing style, the mature thinking, the serious and positive learning attitude of a 14-year-old child. I liked him from the moment I saw his eyes absorbed in pondering each word, listening to his crisp speech and the first page he handed in to the teacher's desk.
Thinking that I had a “fighting chicken” in the training team to compete with others, I was startled to receive a phone call from my mother and son. They confided in me many things, but in the end, they wanted me to transfer to the math training team because the subject opens up many opportunities for future career choices.
When asking the student what subject to study, the child grimaced and said that her mother had already decided, and she couldn't change it even if she wanted to. Although she loved literature, she had to change her dream to math since 6th grade. Reality has proven that math is not a passion for her to develop her strengths.
This year, in 8th grade, my teacher and I faced an extremely difficult problem. It was not difficult for me to talk to the math teacher to ask for my student back. However, I struggled to figure out how to convince my mother to understand my child's wishes. My child said that she had always listened to her mother's opinion because "I only thought about my future", "I only wanted the best for my child"...
Which teacher to study with, what talent to practice, what to do… everything is decided by mother and child. I have never dared to disobey my mother or go against her will. A mother’s heart and strictness in raising her children have made many people admire her because she has raised an extremely obedient child, highly conscious of studying, yet humble, gentle, and friendly.
Last year, she also achieved the highest final score in school, won first prize in the chess competition, and a gold medal in swimming at the town level... She is the pride of our family and teachers.
If only parents gave their children a chance to speak up.
But before that "pride", is it so difficult for children to realize they are going in the wrong direction and want to change direction?
If only parents gave their children the opportunity to speak up, listen and understand their thoughts and wishes, then that 8th grade girl would not have had to frown and fear the moment she expressed her opinion about transferring to the literature training team like that...
How long has it been since you talked to your child? The trivial stories that came out of her pretty mouth about school, teachers, and friends were once listened to with respect and made us laugh with delight. Now that beautiful piece has long since disappeared. The opportunity for children to open up and share their knots from studying, playing, friends, and love is becoming increasingly scarce. The opportunity for us to send simple love through words, actions, and affirm that our children are extremely important and precious to their parents has also completely disappeared.
Parents are willing to sacrifice everything to give the best to their children, but should also take the time to listen to what their children say.
How long has it been since you gave your children a chance to speak up? They are forming their dreams, finding their passions, and wanting to speak up for themselves. But not all children find it easy to express their feelings…
We - parents who love our children dearly and are willing to sacrifice everything to give them the best - have we really taken the time to listen to them, share our thoughts with them and respect their opinions?
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