She was too enthusiastic in giving advice and prying into other people's private matters without being asked for advice.
There is a couple in my office who have been very close for many years. One is single, the other is divorced. The single one is almost 40 years old, the single mom is much younger.
The rift began when a new male employee transferred in. This guy was young, handsome, single, had professional skills, was resourceful, and was loved by everyone.
After working together for a while, the guy expressed his feelings for the girl he had broken up with. The agency knew and respected their privacy, so no one had any opinions or discussions.
But the single girlfriend was worried and started to seek love counseling. First, there was the insinuation that the love story between the two of them would not go anywhere, because "young men do not marry women of the same family", because her hometown was far away, and she was an only son, no mother would marry a daughter-in-law who had been married before...
The other girl just smiled and didn't explain anything further. You also know that there are many obstacles when you come together. You need time to test.
The relationship between the pair of colleagues gradually cracked when their advice was not followed.
Telling the whole story of a colleague's love life online while the couple is still getting to know each other, adding to the broken script.
You, a single person, immediately posted the story of the two of you on Facebook with the purpose of finding an ally, bringing you back to your previous life. The arguments you gave were that a woman with a child would be very inconvenient in having children of her own or of her own in the future. Next was the analysis of the age and youth gap between the girlfriend and her boyfriend, living together in the same house is not suitable...
Faced with his personal matters being posted on social media with comments, his girlfriend gradually distanced herself, no longer having milk tea dates or going sightseeing here and there.
Seeing that his opinions were not accepted, the single person increased the intensity of the malicious comments.
The other person was initially silent, then later asked you not to comment online about personal matters, but was not satisfied.
You are single and find that you can no longer make your girlfriend "open her eyes", so you become more aggressive, telling everyone about your relationship in order to find more people to join your side.
Many people inside and outside the agency know. But no one commented or shared, because they knew it was a private matter, and the relationship between the two young people did not violate any law.
Dealing with Gossip: Silence is Golden
The head of the agency also reminded the single person to stop to avoid personal insults, which is very disadvantageous. But the matter became more serious when the "love consultant" continued to post, depicting the prospect of transferring assets to the man, and then when the girl's appearance was ruined...
At this point, the relationship between the two friends was beyond saving. But the couple never objected to the single friend’s comments on social media. They both agreed that their private matters did not need to be made public online, and there was no need to argue about right or wrong.
Your colleagues at work are fed up with you for going too far in shaming others. Even some people who used to support you have now turned their backs on you, because it is not a pleasant thing to do and interferes too deeply in other people's private lives.
The "consultant" has always lived in fear of his colleagues. Interactions have only been at a social level because everyone is afraid that one day their family matters will be posted on social media and that would be a big problem.
If we are truly friends, we should respect their decisions in everything, even if we have analyzed all the right and wrong aspects of the matter from our own perspective. After all, the person responsible is not us.
And above all, our opinions are not necessarily correct. Understanding that, we will not make the mistake of using social media as an ally to criticize others.
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