Is divorce in old age advisable?

Ms. Song, 61, recently called her children together and informed them that she and her husband had decided to divorce.

Song's daughter knew from a young age that there were many conflicts between her parents, but what she didn't expect was that after those difficult times were over, and now that the children were grown up, without any pressure or restraint, they would choose to divorce.

Ms. Song said, "When I wanted to get a divorce, younger generations found it hard to accept. They argued that if the relationship wasn't good, it was better to divorce young, not at this age. However, how can age be used to determine whether a divorce is possible?"

Ultimately, many factors have helped the Song couple persevere until now, but they can no longer continue.

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Why choose divorce when you're over 60?

In the old days, divorce was considered a terrible thing.

Many young people today may not realize that when we were young, our thinking was actually very old-fashioned and conservative. At that time, divorce was a big deal and a very bad thing. Moreover, most parents disapproved of their daughters' divorces for fear of gossip from neighbors and villagers.

Therefore, when they are young, even if they have the idea of ​​divorce, they lack the courage to make the choice.

I endure it for the sake of my children.

In fact, many people want to persevere for the sake of their children when a marriage fails. Ms. Song recounted that she and her husband had argued a lot since having children, and her husband had become cold and even physically abusive towards her. At that time, Ms. Song felt distressed and upset, and even considered returning to her parents' home and never going back to her husband's house again.

“Before I could even step out the door, my child ran after me, crying and shouting, ‘Mommy, don’t go!’ At that moment, my heart broke, and I thought, what would happen to my child if I really left? So I had to break my promise and continue living my life,” Ms. Song shared.

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With their children grown up, the elderly think about the life they want to live.

Now that their children are grown, Ms. Song and her husband no longer need to live together under duress.

"We stayed together for the sake of our children, but now that they're grown, we want to separate and live the lives we like. Even if we're alone, at least we won't be sad all day," Ms. Song said.

The environment in which the older generation lived at that time was relatively conservative; even if they were unhappy, most people would not choose divorce but instead would endure the grievances and live together, thinking that if they could tolerate it, the marriage could be maintained.

But as time passed and they reached old age, the bonds that sustained their marriage seemed to wear thin. Initially, they worried about what others would say, but in this day and age, reacting to divorce is no longer such a big deal.

In this case, if the issues that the other party finds difficult to accept persist, or if the relationship between the two parties deteriorates over time, it will reach a point where it cannot be maintained and they will choose to divorce.

Therefore, in reality, the fundamental reason why many people over 60 are divorcing today is that they originally intended to divorce when they were younger, but now they are in a better financial position.

Psychologists suggest that one of the reasons often cited by those involved is reaching a breaking point after many long years. However, a deeper analysis reveals that reaching this "breaking point" often means that both partners have failed to make a joint effort to nurture the marriage, have not changed themselves, have only seen each other's faults, and lack tolerance, leading to a situation where reconciliation is impossible.

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T. Linh

Source: https://giadinhonline.vn/ly-hon-tuoi-xe-chieu-nen-khong-d199168.html