It's suffocating when the mother-in-law controls every single vegetable and fish expense.

My husband gives all his salary and bonuses to his mother; she manages our finances. Even my smallest expenses, like a bunch of vegetables or a fish, have to be reported to her.

I never thought that entering marriage would be like signing a contract to cede the rights to my life to someone else.

In this house, I have the title of wife and mother, but in reality, I'm no different from a lodger who has to ask permission for even the smallest things.

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My husband works, but his salary and bonuses go straight into his mother's account. She says she'll keep it for him, because we're young and inexperienced and spend money wastefully.

So every morning, I have to hold out my hand to ask for money to go to the market, and then in the evening I have to meticulously list every bunch of vegetables and fish for her to "audit." This interference doesn't just stop at money; it also extends to how I raise my child. If I speak sternly to the child, she immediately appears to defend her.

Every time I turn to my husband to vent my feelings, instead of empathy, I get the same old sigh. He tells me to just put up with my mother for the sake of peace at home.

Those words were like an anesthetic, forcing me to remain silent in the face of all the absurdity. He doesn't understand that boundless patience is tantamount to condoning the destruction of this little family.

The breaking point came last month. To prepare my child for first grade, I had to tighten my belt, not daring to buy myself a lipstick or a new shirt for six months.

However, through the questioning and probing of the neighbors, I bitterly realized that my mother-in-law had secretly withdrawn all of our savings to pay off the gambling debts of her son from a previous marriage back in her hometown.

My heart grew cold. I had sacrificed and endured for the sake of what was called "filial piety," only to receive the most cruel betrayal in return. It turned out that, in my mother-in-law's eyes, I was just a tool for labor, and in my husband's eyes, his mother's false peace was more important than the true happiness of his wife and children.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/nghet-tho-khi-me-chong-kiem-soat-chi-tieu-tung-mo-rau-con-ca-172260527212458983.htm