"Detoxifying" the healing trend among office workers.

The "healing" trend is sweeping into offices as a stress-relief remedy. Nowadays, it's not uncommon to see desks piled high with scented candles, essential oils, or advice on "self-love" and "letting go of pressure." However, when taken to extremes, this trend inadvertently turns many women into fragile crystals.

The shield called "psychological trauma"

Le Linh, 28, is a design employee at a media company. Linh's desk is very stylish, featuring an essential oil diffuser, cleansing stones, and books on healing. Every morning at the office, Linh's first thing is to turn on meditation music, close her eyes, and breathe deeply for 10 minutes to "detoxify her energy" before starting work.

Everything was going smoothly until the company embarked on its Lunar New Year event campaign. Having attended a tea meditation session the previous evening, Linh submitted the main stage design late, resulting in a disastrous error regarding the backdrop dimensions. During the dress rehearsal, upon discovering the completely misaligned backdrop, the hot-tempered director slammed his hand on the table and shouted, "Why did you even make a mistake on such a basic size check? A team of dozens of people are waiting for you alone!"

Instead of frankly admitting her mistake and trying to correct it, Linh remained silent, tears streaming down her face. She felt her self-respect trampled upon and that her boss had subjected her to "verbal abuse." That same afternoon, Linh requested three days of leave, citing "exhaustion and the need for time to heal the inner child." On social media, she posted a long status update complaining about the "toxic" work environment, where people are exploited without respect. Linh used the label of "healing" as a shield to protect her ego. She refused to understand that her boss's harsh reprimands, though severe, reflected the harsh realities of the job that everyone must face to grow. Running away would only leave her with a weak ability hidden within a fragile shell.

"Hibernation" disguised as peace

At 36, Quynh Mai had secured a firm position as Deputy Head of Sales. Years of fierce sales competition had left Mai feeling weary. Earlier this year, after attending a course on "mindfulness and letting go," Mai found a new light in her life. She decided to change her lifestyle, abandoning ambition and competition to maintain inner peace.

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However, Mai's "letting go" turned into a strategic "hibernation" in her work. When the Board of Directors set a new sales target for the next quarter of 20%, instead of sitting down with the staff to develop a strategy to pursue customers, Mai simply smiled and told the whole team: "Let's just do our best, whatever we achieve is fine, there's no need to force things and waste energy." The passivity of the leader immediately dampened the fighting spirit of the entire team.

The situation escalated when two key employees in the department had a heated dispute over a major contract. Instead of mediating fairly according to company policy to resolve the issue definitively, Mai chose to avoid it. She called both of them into her office, poured each of them a cup of tea, and calmly said, "Everyone, take a deep breath and look at things with understanding and tolerance."

She avoids confrontation and fears clashes, worrying that conflict will disrupt the "positive energy frequency" she's trying to maintain. As a result, the sales department stagnates, sales plummet, and the two employees feel resentful because their issues aren't being resolved satisfactorily. Mai prides herself on reaching a state of serenity, but in reality, she's using a healing mindset to escape the managerial pressure at the peak of her career.

Seeking inner peace is a perfectly legitimate need, but the workplace is not a place for women to use their emotional sensitivity to demand everyone's attention. To avoid being left behind by this trend, modern women need to be level-headed:

Separate emotions from work performance : When criticized, focus on the data and facts: Where did I go wrong, and how can I fix it? Don't jump to conclusions that your boss hates you or that a colleague is playing dirty. Professionalism lies in knowing how to wipe away tears and get the job done.

Strengthening your "psychological muscles": True healing isn't about hiding in a room and burning incense, but about the ability to stand firm and resolve crises in the midst of intense pressure. The ability to withstand pressure is the true measure of a person's strength and ability to master their own life.

Stop overusing comforting words : Don't resort to words like "hurt," "overwhelmed," or "depleted" for everyday difficulties. Mislabeling the problem only increases your self-doubt and vulnerability.

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Source: https://phunuvietnam.vn/giai-doc-trao-luu-chua-lanh-cua-dan-van-phong-238260531102001178.htm