Open and sincere communication is the key to understanding and building strong trust between husband and wife. Illustration photo
When conflicts and misunderstandings arise
Ms. Nguyet and Mr. Nam in Phu Loc commune have been married for 8 years and have 2 children, both boys and girls. They run a rice shop and a beverage shop. Business is going well and their family is financially well off.
Recently, Nam's close friend said that "the owner of the land needed money and was selling it urgently at a low price", so she invited Nam to buy it to make a profit. Nguyet was afraid that he had no experience in real estate business, so she advised her husband to slow down and wait for the legality to be verified. However, Nam was worried that someone else would "take advantage" of him, so he decided to buy it right away. When it came to the paperwork, many problems arose. Nguyet thought that Nam's decision was disrespectful to his wife. She was angry and did not talk to or eat with her husband for many days.
Although Cuc and Tam's family in Dai Thanh ward are not well off, their life is quite peaceful and happy. Cuc is a civil servant and her husband is a salesman. Over the past few years, Cuc and her husband have bought land and saved money, planning to build a house at the end of this year. However, before their dream could be realized, Tam suddenly informed them that his sister had recently needed capital for business and urgently asked to borrow money. Tam quickly took out more than half of his savings to help his sister without consulting his wife. Angry with her husband, Cuc took her child and returned to her mother's house for a whole week, refusing to answer her phone calls or text messages despite her husband's repeated pleas.
The relationship between Giang and Khai in Hung Phu ward has always been good. In the family, Khai is an exemplary husband and father, loving his wife and children with all his heart. However, recently, Giang's close friend unexpectedly met Khai with a beautiful young woman buying an apartment. Coincidentally, Giang's friend was also looking to buy a house, so they accidentally "met".
When her friend told her the news, Ms. Giang was very angry. However, she did not dare to ask her husband directly, but just silently endured, thinking vaguely, doubting everything. For several days, she avoided her husband, did not talk, did not eat with him... When Mr. Khai asked, she only replied that she had a lot of work and was tired.
Listen and understand
At first, when his wife did not pay attention, even though he knew he was wrong, because of his male pride, Nam did not care. But then the family atmosphere was stuffy, the kitchen was cold, the children were also psychologically affected by their parents' war, Nam was very regretful. He decided to speak up first, admitting his mistake. He and his wife contacted an acquaintance who was knowledgeable about the law to help resolve the case. The land seemed cheap but incurred a lot of costs, making the investment ineffective. After the incident, Nam learned a valuable lesson and importantly, he realized the importance of the husband and wife being in agreement.
Meanwhile, Mr. Tam went to his wife's parents' house to apologize and beg to take his wife and children back. Everyone in the family also advised Ms. Cuc to forget everything because Mr. Tam also wanted to do it for the sake of sisterhood. For now, the wife's family lent the couple money to build a house as planned. The sister-in-law also took the initiative to call and set a date to pay the debt. After discussing and finding a way to solve the problem, Ms. Cuc and her husband mended their relationship and prepared to start building their dream house.
Seeing his wife's coldness, Mr. Khai kept asking, Ms. Giang finally told him that someone saw him and a beautiful young woman buying an apartment. After listening, he realized that his wife had misunderstood. The person Mr. Khai took to see the house was My Ngoc, his cousin. Because Mr. Khai had been in business for a long time, had a wide network of friends, and had a partner selling the house at a preferential price, he introduced his cousin to buy it for investment. In return, Mr. Khai also received a commission. Mr. Khai's cousin then invited him and his wife to dinner and gave them a gift to thank them for helping them buy the house at a good price.
“Misunderstanding my husband made me feel guilty and learned a profound lesson. If there is anything that a couple is not satisfied with or does not understand, they must discuss it frankly and openly. A “cold war” can easily make the people involved more distant, and there is a risk of breaking up their happiness,” Ms. Giang confided.
According to psychological experts, the relationship between husband and wife needs to be nurtured and nurtured every day. In addition, when there are disagreements, conflicts or misunderstandings, the couple needs to talk frankly to find a suitable solution. Because if the "cold war" lasts for a long time, it will only cause more rifts in the relationship, affecting family happiness.
Article and photos: TAM KHOA
Source: https://baocantho.com.vn/thau-hieu-de-hoa-hop-a194351.html
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