GĐXH - Getting married is an important issue in every person's life. Therefore, when looking at your future husband's family and parents, if they have this point, you should consider it.
1. No family tradition or discipline
When you realize you have fallen in love with a man whose family likes to gamble, drink or is prone to conflict… you have to be very careful.
If you want him or his family to give up these habits, it is very difficult because nature is hard to change.
Or if you come to his house and see that the house is neat and tidy but his mother does not let her son do any housework, then it is very likely that after getting married, all the housework will be handed over to you.
Or if you see him obediently listening to his parents and not knowing right from wrong, it proves that his parents like to interfere in their son's marriage and he is a person without his own opinions.
And if you marry such a man, into such a family, I'm afraid that life after marriage will hardly be happy.
2. Unhappy parents
If your lover has parents who are always at odds, he may have hurt or a certain coldness or irritability in his heart.
The quality of parents' marriage can greatly affect their children's psychology.
Therefore, if a spouse grows up in a family with serious discord, they may be severely psychologically affected and when they get married, they are more likely to have conflicts and have difficulty controlling their emotions.
Therefore, if he shows signs of difficulty controlling his emotions or getting angry, you need to pay more attention. Moreover, if you get married and then live with your in-laws like that, it will be very tiring and can affect your children's lives.
A happy family will give people more balanced, positive and optimistic thoughts.
3. Not respecting your child's boundaries
If the other parent lacks a sense of boundaries and is controlling, the child growing up in this environment often has difficulty being independent.
Parents who are too controlling may make demands and opinions about your life, and may even want to force you to live according to their wishes.
People born into this type of family will be controlled by their parents, they lack independence and self-confidence.
This dependence will increase friction and conflict in your life, and in severe cases can lead to a broken marriage.
If you want to find a partner, choose a family that is moderate and does not want to control.
Parents who are too controlling may make demands and opinions about your life, and may even want to force you to live according to their wishes. Illustration photo
4. Husband does not respect, share, or help his wife
Every woman was once a treasure in the hands of her parents, so why lower herself and suffer all kinds of humiliation just because of another man?
For a married man, the greatest respect for his wife is listening. Whether it is a big or small matter, the couple should discuss it together, the husband should listen to his wife's opinion, so that the family can be more harmonious.
But not all families are like that. In reality, there are many patriarchal men. They make little money and think they are the best. They yell at their wives and children for no reason and don't know the meaning of respect.
If you love a man but when you go to his house, you see that his mother is very modest, his father is a patriarch, and even when he says something wrong, no one dares to correct him, then you should consider carefully before going deeper into this relationship.
Otherwise, after getting married, you may be the one who takes care of all the housework, but your voice in the family will have no weight. Such a life will be very tiring and humiliating.
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