"Do you love your paternal or maternal grandmother more?", Mom's answer was applauded by thousands of people.

As children grow up, their views and understanding of the things around them become deeper and they also have more thoughts.

During this process, parents will notice that their children often ask questions that even adults find difficult to answer. Although these questions may be embarrassing, they directly affect the formation of a child's outlook on life and the world . If parents do not answer completely or objectively, this can affect the way children perceive and evaluate things.

Not long ago, Ms. Zhang from Beijing, China posted a conversation between her and her children online. Unexpectedly, in just a short time, this shared video attracted the attention and praise of many netizens.

Specifically, after dinner, Ms. Zhang and her children read a picture book. The picture book at that time was about a child being filial to adults. The story was about a child being filial to his grandparents. After reading for a while, the little boy raised his head and asked: “Mommy, both grandma and paternal grandma love me, and I love them too. So, do you love grandma or maternal grandma more?”

The child's question was obviously full of innocence, but it made Ms. Zhang feel embarrassed. Although her relationship with her mother-in-law was quite good, her biological mother was the one who gave birth to her and raised her. Emotionally, she was definitely closer to her biological mother.

However, directly telling the child that the mother likes the maternal grandmother more will certainly affect the child's attitude towards the two grandmothers, and may even cause the child to misunderstand.

But after some thought, Ms. Zhang came up with an answer that she thought was satisfactory.

“My grandmother gave birth to me and raised me, so I love her very much! My grandmother gave birth to me and raised me, and I love me, so I love my grandmother too!”

Although the answer was a bit roundabout, it made the child very satisfied. The boy immediately said: "I love my mother and father, so I also love my grandmother and paternal grandmother !"

What happens if parents avoid answering their children's difficult questions?

As children become more aware, they may ask questions that adults find difficult to answer. Although parents often teach their children to be honest, for children who lack life experience and do not yet have full awareness, answering honestly can be more confusing.

Therefore, when answering difficult questions, parents need to think carefully. Answering hastily will only confuse children more, and even affect their perception.

When children are curious and ask questions, it means that they are wondering and want to receive answers. If parents answer perfunctorily, this confusing attitude will also make children feel very disappointed, which to some extent also reduces their enthusiasm and confidence in asking questions. Over time, children gradually lose confidence in communicating with their parents.

How can parents help their children form the right filial piety?

As children's perception of family relationships becomes more complex, they will easily become curious about the level of closeness between them and family members. Therefore, when children ask awkward questions, parents need to handle them tactfully. For children, all family members are loved ones, and there should be no clear distinction between who is closer. Therefore, when answering children's questions, parents should avoid giving too much personal opinion.

Family relationships are often full of conflict, such as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, which is always a difficult problem to resolve. But this does not mean that children should be caught up in such conflicts. When children are forced to choose sides, their concept of family love and filial piety will be seriously affected. Therefore, no matter what opinions parents have about certain family members, their answers should not be biased.

After being born, children, with certain learning abilities, will silently follow the words and actions of their parents and imitate and learn. If parents want their children to have a correct view of filial piety, they should also set an example. Through referring to the words and actions of their parents, children will naturally understand the true meaning of filial piety.

T. Linh (According to Baidu)

Source: https://giadinhonline.vn/me-yeu-ba-noi-hay-ba-ngoai-hon-d202231.html