I have two lovely twin daughters. They were conceived naturally, but to have these two princesses, I had to undergo 5 years of infertility treatment everywhere. When both my husband and I wanted to give up, the two children came unexpectedly.
Perhaps because I had been treated for infertility for so many years and had twins, many people thought that my two children were the result of intervention. Sometimes people asked me why I had used technology and not just had a gender screening to have a boy. Every time I did that, I just smiled, even though I felt very uncomfortable inside.
Not only outsiders but also my husband's parents constantly wonder about this even though we have clearly said that we cannot decide the gender of the child, but it seems that my husband's parents do not believe it and do not want to believe it.
After my husband's parents kept asking me about this, I understood that even though they said that boys and girls were not important, they actually wanted a grandson. It would be a lie to say that I wasn't sad, but after my husband did some ideological work for me, I didn't want to think about it anymore.
After all these years of seeking treatment everywhere to have a child, how can you not be sad and angry when you have one person after another giving their opinion about the child's gender?
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The more I grew up, the more I realized that my grandparents were not interested in my two grandchildren, especially after my brother-in-law gave birth to a son. They only talked about their grandson and did not care about their two granddaughters at all.
My two children have just turned 2 years old, my mother-in-law has reminded my husband several times to intervene this time to screen the gender to try to give birth to a boy and a boy, but I told my husband straight that I would not have any more children. Firstly, our current economy is not strong enough to have more children. Secondly, if I had a boy, my two princesses would definitely see more clearly the discrimination of their grandparents.
Luckily, my husband doesn't take this seriously, he even likes girls more. When the doctor first said there was a high chance that he would take after his father, my husband's expression was completely normal, but a few months later, when it was certain that we were having two girls, my husband was overjoyed.
Because of my husband, I gradually stopped caring about what people around me said about whether I had a boy or a girl, as long as my family was happy.
Until a few days ago, both of my daughters got sick and were hospitalized. Anyone who has twins or more will understand that usually when one gets sick, it will infect the other, so I had to go to the hospital to take care of two small children at the same time.
Taking care of my children in the hospital is extremely difficult. Normally my children are very well-behaved, but when they are sick, they both cling to their mother. I want to go to the cafeteria to buy food for them, but I can't go. At times like that, I usually just sit still in the hospital room to take care of them while my husband has to run around everywhere.
Of course, everyone knows that when someone is hospitalized, the one who takes care of them is the one who has to work the hardest, but now that there is no one to help at home, who else will take care of them?
After taking care of my child in the hospital for the third day, my mother-in-law called me. She said the following: " Let Tan go home to rest. He's tired after working hard in the hospital for the past few days!"; "Tell your husband to go home and sleep. Don't make him stay overnight"...
At this moment, all my frustrations arose, and I couldn't control myself and told her directly.
- If he is tired, don't I know I'm tired, Mom? Now that our two children are sick, my husband and I have to try to take care of them. What else can we do? Or is it because I'm your niece that you don't want your son to take care of me? I don't expect you to support us, but please leave us alone. Life is stressful enough with food, clothing, and taking care of our children. Or do you want us to break up so your son can go find his first grandson, then you'll be satisfied?...
After saying that, I hung up. I know I was being a bit harsh, but I really can’t stand it when I’m stressed and tired like this. Now all I can think about is her making a fuss and making my husband suffer…
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