"When the husband is angry, the wife should speak less..."

Our ancestors often reminded their descendants about marriage: "When the husband is angry, the wife should speak less / When the rice is boiling, turn down the heat, and it will never burn." When angry, either the wife or the husband should "take a step back" to maintain harmony and avoid unnecessary conflicts.

Mr. Ly Tran Hung, Head of the Front Committee for Area 1, and Ms. Vo Thi Le Huyen, Head of the Women's Association for Area 1, My Xuyen Ward ( Can Tho City), are praised by many as exemplary individuals who live for others. They have been married for nearly four years. Mr. Hung appreciates his wife's gentle nature and hard work. Ms. Huyen balances social work with her garment manufacturing business, yet she always manages the household perfectly, caring for and raising their three children well.

In his free time, he helps his wife cook in the kitchen and helps their children with their studies. Every month, he takes his wife out for a trip or shopping. “Marital life also has its disagreements. Sometimes I get annoyed because my wife keeps nagging and complaining about me meeting up with friends or attending parties that I can't refuse. At times like that, I go out for coffee to calm down. But when I get home and see my wife busy with household chores and talking to me, I feel sorry for her and forget my anger,” Mr. Hung shared.

Sitting beside her, Ms. Huyen confided: “I had a broken family and was hurt by the words and actions of my partner. Now that I've met Mr. Hung, my husband, who always loves, respects, understands, and listens to me, I cherish him very much. He loves my two children from my previous marriage and doesn't differentiate between them. We both try our best to build and maintain our family home. Usually, when we argue, I'm the one who makes up first…”

Holding his wife's hand tightly, Mr. Hung said that the couple are focusing on developing their garment manufacturing business, providing for their children's education, and building a happy family home...

Mr. Ly Tran Hung and Ms. Vo Thi Le Huyen are happily married and working together to build a loving family.

Ms. Trieu Hong Nhu, Vice President of the Women's Union of My Xuyen Ward, said: "Huyen and her husband behave very civilly; they live with kindness and integrity, caring for and helping members in need. Both have a simple lifestyle, know how to take care of and build a warm family home."

Through love and mutual understanding, Bui Thi Hong Mo and Huynh Ngoc Loi (residents of My Tho area, My Quoi ward) have maintained a strong and loving relationship after 10 years together. Their family is always filled with laughter. According to Mo and her husband, having been destined to be husband and wife, each person must cherish and be responsible for their spouse. In life, there will inevitably be difficult times, and at those times, the motivation for the couple to overcome them is trust, listening, encouragement, sharing, and standing by each other's side.

According to Ms. Chau Ngoc Thuy, a lecturer in Psychology and Education at the Faculty of Education, Soc Trang Community College, most couples don't lack love, but rather the skills to manage emotions and communicate effectively during conflicts (anger, disagreements). Principles of behavior that can be applied in daily life include viewing your spouse as a "teammate" rather than an "opponent" during conflicts. No matter how angry you are, always remember certain boundaries: don't insult or belittle each other; don't bring up the past to "condemn" each other; don't threaten separation/divorce; and don't resort to violence. A single wrong word spoken in anger can leave lasting wounds. Knowing how to control negative emotions is essential for both spouses.

During arguments, both partners should always listen to understand each other, not listen only to retaliate more aggressively. Absolutely do not try to "correct" each other's bad habits or "teach" each other during a conflict, because if one person speaks emotionally and the other responds logically, the conflict has a chance to escalate. Spouses should know how to apologize and forgive properly; they should not speak ill of each other, embarrass their spouse in front of others, or belittle each other's feelings… Once both maintain mutual respect, happiness will last.

Text and photos: SỚM MAI

Source: https://baocantho.com.vn/chong-gian-thi-vo-bot-loi--a204104.html