Mr. Nguyen Ngoc Phuc shared that he will spend Tet cooking, washing dishes and chatting with his wife and children - Photo: T.TRIEU
Let go on Tet holiday
Ms. Ngoc Nga (District 3, Ho Chi Minh City) complained softly in the group "Association of people who are about to get bored with their husbands" on Facebook: "Are your husbands like my husband? Near Tet, I have to call him to wash the car and take the children to get a haircut. Every year, he brings home a little Tet bonus to give to his wife, considering it his duty.
He said he was tired and stressed from working all year, so he should relax during Tet and do whatever he wanted. So he played games all day, and when it was time to eat, he didn't care, he went hungry.
Some people commented, "That's fine, ma'am, having a lot of money is enough." But some women were worried: "The problem is not that Tet is boring, but that men are so indulgent, the family is no longer disciplined, and the inherently beautiful value of Tet is lost."
A common mistake many men make is being lazy, not sharing the housework, leaving their wives to take care of everything, from cleaning the house, preparing for Tet, cooking to entertaining guests. Of course, when the wife has to do too much, it is easy to become "sullen" and cause discord.
This year, Ms. Thai Thu Nguyet (Go Vap District) decided to take her whole family to Da Lat. She jokingly said that it was "to escape Tet". According to her, in nearly 10 years of marriage, Tet is the time when she is most tired and almost every year she argues with her husband. Her husband does not do housework but on Tet he brings his friends home to drink and play cards all night. During the Tet holidays, she feels like a "maid".
The first day of the year is the best time for the whole family to visit relatives, ask questions, chat, and bond, but many husbands just want to stay home or "go out drinking at the slightest provocation".
Men "control" the value of Tet
First of all, Tet is an opportunity for family members to look back on what they have done in the past year and what their plans are for the new year. These are not only plans for parents’ business or children’s education, but also plans to build relationships and foster love among family members.
Looking back, aiming for each member to contribute responsibly and positively in the joy of spring weather. With this, more than anyone else, the husband and father should take on the role of "leader" to manage, connect, inspire, encourage and motivate the remaining members.
Taking the lead is not only by words, but more importantly by actions. “No matter what, when Tet is near, the wife and children see the breadwinner happily painting, cleaning and decorating the house, washing the car, taking the children to get a haircut and even urging his wife to go to the beauty salon, they are very happy, they feel Tet in their hearts” – Mr. Nguyen Ngoc Phuc (Tan An ward, Buon Ma Thuot city, Dak Lak ) shared.
“I love cooking, especially during Tet, I really want to cook the dishes my wife and children like. I drink all year long, I am lazy often, and I am always superficial. Tet is the time to look back at myself, focus more on my wife and children, and take care of the smallest things.
I also established a habit of taking my wife and children to visit both sides of the family. Not only superficial visits, but I also trained my children to get used to putting down their phones and chatting with their grandparents. I shared my knowledge about traditional cultural values and the old Tet to pass on to my children," said Mr. Phuc.
Mr. Nguyen Dang Khuong (Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City) shared: "During Tet, what I like most is taking my wife shopping and taking my mother to the market. In addition, the time during Tet, if used properly, is very valuable."
A husband who "really acts like a man" on Tet holiday, clearly knows how to share housework with his wife, proactively plans finances so that the whole family can have a warm and cozy Tet, takes the lead in creating a happy and warm atmosphere and is the key person in spreading the spiritual value of reunion and connection to have a memorable Tet.
Source: https://tuoitre.vn/dan-ong-cam-trich-ngay-tet-tai-sao-khong-20250118103305637.htm
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