The type of parents with average education but still raise excellent children

A professor at Peking University (China) once shared his storyof educating his children with reporters. He said that although he had a lot of knowledge and ability to be admitted to Peking University, he felt helpless when tutoring his own children.

"No matter what method I use, my child's scores are always at the bottom of the class," said the professor.

In fact, excellent parents do not necessarily raise excellent children. Why is that? For excellent parents, in the process of educating their children, they often hope that their children can be as excellent as themselves. Therefore, they often interfere in all of their children's actions. In studying, they want their children to always be at the top. If they are forced too much in this way, not only will children not be grateful to their parents, but they will also develop a rebellious mentality.

The movie "In the Name of the Family" was very famous in both China and Vietnam. One of the impressive characters is Qi Mingyue. When she was in school, Mingyue was always under a lot of pressure from her mother. Her mother wanted her to be the top of the class. Her mother's long-term control caused Qi Mingyue to develop a flattering and obedient personality in class. However, later on, Qi Mingyue broke out in rebellion.

During an argument with her mother, she admitted that the reason she failed the university entrance exam was because she intentionally wrote fewer answers, just to avoid her mother. It can be seen that parents who control their children too much will not be liked by their children.

In the famous movie "Galaxy Supplementary Class", actor Dang Sieu transformed into a thoughtful father with an extremely good way of educating his child. He helped his child from a poor student to an outstanding astronaut. When his child was a bad student, he did not get angry. Instead, he encouraged his child to pursue knowledge and passion, promoting his child's development.

In fact, highly educated parents do not necessarily produce outstanding children. Parents with average education but with the right educational methods can completely make their children "go against the tide".

In fact, highly educated parents do not necessarily produce outstanding children. Illustrative photo

Research by Ke Weilin - a Chinese professor at Harvard University said: Children can become Masters and PhDs not only because of high IQ.

This professor said that learning experts have many similar habits. If parents grasp the right method to raise their children, it is not difficult for them to achieve high achievements in learning.

Parents realize the true value of education

That's right, the type of parents who can raise good students are not necessarily highly educated parents, but parents who realize that knowledge can change destiny. Learning is never useless!

In China, there was once a farmer father who made many people admire him for raising his children to be admitted to the top universities in the country. His eldest daughter passed the entrance exam to Tsinghua University. His second daughter passed the entrance exam to Peking University. Although his education was low, he never thought of making his children drop out of school to work early to help him. Instead, he knew that only education could make his children's lives better than his own, and that only knowledge could help his children escape the poor countryside. Therefore, he tried to work hard so that his children could have the conditions to go to school.

From this, it can be seen that it is extremely important for parents to have the right values ​​in life. If parents do not emphasize to their children the importance of studying, if their children are studying hard but keep saying "why study so much, studying so much will only get married and have children" then their children will never be able to achieve a high level of education.

Besides, there is another thing that makes parents with low education often raise good children. In the process of raising children, there is a rule that parents who are too diligent often raise "lazy children".

In the process of tutoring their children in studying, parents with higher education levels will understand better and will often guide their children to solve problems according to their own opinions. However, for parents with lower education levels, the ability to tutor their children in studying and help them solve homework is limited, so their children have to be more "self-reliant". Not being limited by the framework set by parents does not delay children's learning but often helps children practice independence in studying and good logical thinking ability.

As in the case of the farmer father above, when asked about the secret to raising children, he shared: "My cultural level is very low. I don't have any great secrets. I just let my children teach me. When I was young, my family was poor so I didn't have a chance to study properly.

So when I had children, I didn’t have much knowledge to teach them. Every day when my children came home from school, I asked them to tell me what the teacher had taught them today and then asked them to explain it to me.

If the child understands the lesson, he will explain it to me. If he doesn't understand the lesson and can't explain it to me, the next day, I will tell him to go to the teacher to explain it to me until he understands it and then come home to "teach" it to me," the farmer calmly replied.

Therefore, it is very important to instill in children the right values ​​and train them to be self-learners and have an interest in learning.

It is very important to impart the right values ​​to your children and train them to be self-learners and have an interest in learning. Illustrative photo

Parents bring their children closer to nature

Many parents today think that their children only need to focus on studying and getting high scores, and that other recreational activities are not so important. Never think like that!

For children who are growing up, what they need most is to participate in extracurricular activities to be able to develop quickly both physically and mentally. This requires parents to let their children get closer to nature when educating them.

By being close to nature, touching trees, smelling the fragrance of flowers and listening to birdsong, children can be spiritually nourished, help relax their minds, and create better physical conditions for learning.

Parents let their children participate in social activities

Nowadays, children live and make friends online, they live as if they are living in a castle in the air, lacking connection with real society.

Encouraging children to participate in more social activities and build real connections is the right thing to do.

You can expose your child to more social exposure based on their interests.

Actively participate in volunteer activities and do things that you feel interested in and comfortable with.

Parents give children a certain space to develop.

In addition to bringing children closer to nature, parents also need to change their educational philosophy. Most parents today often have a wrong educational philosophy, which is that studying is first and happiness is second.

It is true that you have to study hard, but that does not mean that your life revolves around studying all day long. Parents forcing their children to study all day long without giving them time to rest is no different from torture.

As children grow up, parents should give them a certain space to mature and develop their personal interests. This will help them improve their communication and language skills, and help them develop healthily and happily.

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