Loss of confidence, depression after divorce

After we divorced, I really felt like I was the woman my husband said I was, worthless, like a piece of trash.

I am 42 years old, and just divorced my husband 2 months ago. Before the divorce, I had a long time living like hell with my husband. My husband always criticized me as the least attractive woman, boring, lifeless, and without a sense of humor. That he was blindfolded when he married me...

I was haunted by what my husband said. After our divorce, I really felt like the woman he said I was - worthless, like a piece of trash.

In particular, the breakup made me feel like a failure. Every time I saw my friends showing off their happy, peaceful families on social media, my heart ached. I felt terrible for not being able to keep the home my children wanted.

I fell into a constant sadness, often cried silently, did not want to meet or socialize with friends anymore. I felt my condition getting worse every day. I did not know how to get out?

Nguyen Luu Ly ( Hanoi )

After the divorce, I felt like a failure and a loser. Illustration photo,

Liu Ly Than, everyone wishes to have a happy married life, to be able to hold hands with their partner until death. However, life has countless changes, and at some point in marriage, when the two people no longer have a common voice, breaking up is inevitable. There may be many reasons leading to this outcome, but it has happened, and you should not think that it is entirely your fault, that you are a failure.

Your husband's assessment of you may be his own perception. But that does not mean that it is your entire worth. Think back to whether your relatives, friends, and colleagues have ever praised you, what positive things about you that make them admire you? Especially your children, in their eyes, what kind of mother are you...

And even if you still can’t remember the positive things that others remember about you, write down on paper what made you happy. An academic achievement, an open mind, a loving heart, when you were happy with yourself…

Divorce is a major life change and can have a major psychological impact. It is important that you stop blaming yourself and withdrawing into yourself. This will only cause you to wallow in sadness.

Think positively and socialize, meet friends. When you smile, everything will be easier. Wish you soon regain balance and joy!

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