Without you guys, we can still have fun - Illustration: TTD
It's better for you to say a few happy words of congratulations than to try to organize something grand, smiling brightly but feeling "heartbroken" because you have to pay for everything from office parties to close friends' parties.
My department has nearly 20 people, including 6 men. Our tradition (I don't know when it started, or who started it?) is Women's Day, when all the men contribute money to organize a party for the whole unit.
Honestly, the ladies don't think much about it because it's not always the men who pay for coffee or meals, and usually the ladies are fair and reasonable, this time the men invite, next time the ladies invite back.
Until the party on March 8th that year, after finishing eating and drinking, while waiting to pay the bill, the deputy boss revealed: Mr. H. and Mr. L. still had not paid the contribution to last year's party, so he had to pay out of his own pocket.
Even though we have been talking about it for a long time, those two guys still refuse to pay. On top of that, this year Mr. H. brought his girlfriend along. As the boss, he has to pay in advance. It would be weird to collect the payment right away!
Hearing the deputy boss's honest words, the women were so angry. They thought the party was for the group to be happy, united, and close-knit, but with a few people paying to look good like this, it would be better to not have it at all. One woman reacted harshly:
- Okay, from now on, don't organize this kind of party anymore. How can the food be delicious like this? No one forced you to organize it, so why are you forcing each other to work so hard?
- Still have to do it, other units do their best, don't make people laugh and lose face!
It turns out that organizing a party for women is a criterion for men to prove that their level of care for women is equal to that of other men so as not to be different. After the 8-3 party with that shocking revelation, on October 20, the women decided to contribute money to organize the party, and any men who wanted to participate had to pay their own money, but the women were not required to participate.
Without brothers and sisters, we can still have fun, and even feel lighter because we don't feel indebted.
Since when did organizing parties or giving flowers to female colleagues suddenly become a heavy task, an unavoidable responsibility of men in the office?
Is it because Facebook is flooded with ambiguous questions: "Do you guys have any plans for this holiday?" and all kinds of products and services are jumping in to advertise, making you confused? And also the images of gathering to eat, drink, and sing of all kinds of organizations and groups make you seethe, trying to not be inferior to other units?
No wonder some men secretly complain: from March 8 to October 20, being a man is so miserable! That misery is created by you yourselves, it doesn't fall from the sky!
To reduce this unspeakable suffering of the brothers, perhaps the women should refuse invitations so that the men can just express their feelings to their own women.
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