After retirement, parents should have 4 'No's' with their children to have a peaceful old age.

Don't give money to your children too early.

When you reach your final months, you need to learn to give yourself a way out. Your assets are like a magic weapon to enjoy your old age.

Elderly people should never leave their assets to their children before they die. Doing so would be like giving your children an easy life and putting yourself in a passive position.

A wise person will only pass on assets to their children when they are closest to death. This not only avoids the risk of your assets being squandered by your children, but also helps you afford retirement benefits if your children are unfilial.

Only when the elderly keep their assets, will their children and grandchildren respect them. Especially in families with many children, the elderly often say: "Be the best at taking care of yourself, if you keep worrying about your children, you will have no money left."

In fact, in some wealthy families, because they want to get more of the property, some unfilial children compete to take care of their parents in order to benefit.

But in reality, deep inside they do not want to show filial piety and support to that extent.

Therefore, if you want to have a peaceful old age, you should only hold on to your assets to be able to cover expenses when you are no longer able to work.

A wise person will only pass on assets to their children when they are closest to death. Illustration photo

Do not hand over houses and land immediately

Mr. Vuong's old neighbor, as soon as his son got married, sold his house and wanted to move in with his son.

Many people around advised them not to be impulsive and to keep it, if they were not happy living together in the future, there would still be a way out. But the old neighbor confidently believed that the child had been filial since childhood so there would be no problem.

Sure enough, after living together for less than a year, the old neighbor couple had to pack up and go back to their hometown to find a house.

Unfortunately, local housing prices have increased, most of the money they have is given to their children, the old couple cannot afford to buy a house, now they can only rent a temporary house to live in.

Many older people confidently believe that a more crowded home is happier, but in reality this is not really a good choice.

First of all, there are huge differences between generations. Young people like to stay up late, old people like to go to bed early, young people like to be noisy, old people like to be quiet... even small things can easily lead to conflicts.

The elderly should change their old ideas, not tie themselves to their children. When children grow up, they should have their own space and their own life. If they miss their children, they should gather together and enjoy the holidays.

Don't exhaust your old age labor for your children.

In today's life, a large number of retired elderly people still continue to work. They work tirelessly just to earn extra salary to meet and support their children.

There are also some parents who, after retirement, not only have to do extra chores but are also assigned all the housework.

Not only do they have to take care of themselves, they also have to take care of their children's families. Life after retirement is many times more tiring.

It is unreasonable to exhaust the labor of the elderly after retirement. For the elderly, it is not about how much extra money they can earn to support their children, nor about helping their children with housework every day, the important thing is to take good care of their own bodies. Because once you lose your health, not only will you be tired, but you will also become a burden to your children.

Instead of spending time on things that exhaust the body, the elderly should exercise and take care of their bodies. Because once the elderly lose their health, no matter how much money they earn, it is not enough to pay for medical treatment.

Just because our bodies are getting weaker doesn't mean we can't be happy. As long as we have a well-planned retirement life, we can still have a comfortable old age.

Not spending all your time with your children

As people get older, time runs out.

Many parents spend that time taking care of their grandchildren and doing housework for their children instead of enjoying and resting after more than half a lifetime of hard work.

This not only wastes the remaining precious time but also affects your health due to overworking.

Good health is not only a blessing for the elderly but also the greatest support for children. Take time to exercise, join clubs to make friends, relax, and you will be healthy.

Many parents have a high spirit of sacrifice, their whole life revolves around their children, no matter how much they give, they never complain.

However, we must understand that before becoming parents, we were also normal people, with our own lives and needs. Parents should learn to enjoy their own lives.

“Selfless devotion” is no longer relevant to modern family relationships. As an older adult, learn to take care of yourself and enjoy life.

For children, must learn to be independent and respect the decisions of parents.

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