Singer My Linh: Being at the bottom of 'Beautiful Sister' is fine, as long as I have everything I need when I go home

"Storms can strike at any time. Therefore, the best thing we can do is to tie down the house tightly and always be ready to welcome the storm..." Returning to the reality TV show 'Beautiful Sister Who Rides the Wind' season 2 (aired on VTV3 on October 26), singer My Linh shared with Thanh Nien how to keep the storm "at bay behind the door".

At the Miss Universe Vietnam finals held in September, MC Thanh Trung once summarized about her: "Our Diva My Linh has everything: talent, beauty, intelligence, emotion and most of all, influence on the community. She only has one thing in abundance, which is... age!". How did you feel when you heard that?

I think he's right! It's not "unfair"! Maybe it's because of our age that I have all the things he so generously listed ( laughs ).

But right now is the time when I'm not very ambitious, but rather like small, cute things, even like singing in tea rooms more than grand live shows...

Is "Small and Pretty" continuing to participate in the show " Pretty Sister Riding the Wind" season 2?

Well, it was a "huge" show, but it was just a game show! When I asked the organizers why they invited me again for season 2 (with singer Thu Phuong), they said that the format of this show needed the return of at least two "big sisters" (I understand "big sisters" to mean... older). They must be older for the kids to listen.

Although in fact, if I were on your team, I would only lose. Because I am not competitive, I don't have the "blood for winning or losing", I tend to "give in", so it seems that I am not very suitable for competitions. If I go to a competition, I have to win, but My Linh does not necessarily have to win. I can be ranked 30th in the cast of "Beautiful Sister", it's still fun, it's okay, as long as when I go home and close the door, I have everything I need.

But who knows, maybe I'll change my mind in season 2!

In "Beautiful Sister Who Makes the Waves" season 1, among a sea of 30 mostly fresh and youthful beauties, in a show that leans more towards visual and staging elements than audio elements, "big sister" My Linh still creates an effect as usual with her own charm and inherent silliness and innocence. But if we are being strict, it seems that those "mischiefs" are more or less below the standards of a diva?

It's just a fun place to hang out, why take it so seriously? Of course, we can't expect extremely high artistic value here, because first, this is just an entertainment show; second, even with a huge investment, it still has to have a certain "immediacy", because no one can learn to sing, dance, and act in just 2 weeks, let alone a superman!

But the most important and interesting thing here is that it helps players break out of the cocoon that surrounds them, which often confines people in conservative safety. Before entering season 1, I was afraid of all sorts of things: afraid of dancing awkwardly, afraid of not being able to sing and dance at the same time, afraid of acting young, afraid of going overboard, afraid of being boring, afraid of being laughed at… There were legitimate and illegitimate fears, but I was still afraid.

But in the end, season 1 was an unexpected success. I really didn't think my "antics" would inspire people so much, about how people can break out of their shells.

When I received so many comments, messages through various platforms, and even handwritten letters, I understood that it was a gift worthy of the effort I had put in and the joy I had brought. It was a victory in the hearts of my fans.

Does that mean you can lower your standards when needed, despite being considered a diva?

I think the wisest choice here is to fit the context in which you appear. The same dance, if it were in my personal show, or in the space of the Opera House…, it might be overdone; but if it were in the framework of an entertainment game show, it would be appropriate. It is appropriate, not a lowering of standards.

Generally speaking, at this age, to some extent, I sometimes allow myself to lower my standards. In this life, we often feel tired or suffocated because we are too perfectionist, with standards that we set ourselves and force ourselves to follow, which are sometimes unnecessary, and no one forces us to do so. If not, there are standards that both tire us and annoy the people living around us.

In those cases, I would choose to lower my standards, to make life easier and more comfortable.

Hasn't her life become lighter and easier, without lowering her standards: a successful career even in her old age, a happy family for many years, successful and grown-up children...! Has the time come for the farmer to reap the fruits?

I have never really had that idea. The moment I see my children grow up, start a career, enter the world, have a lover or get married…, I just see them as birds with enough feathers and wings to watch them fly away. What’s more fun is that from now on I no longer have to struggle to… shoulder the children’s tuition bills.

Normally, tears flow. Just think about it from yourself, you know, you are famous for being "something", but in reality you can't take care of both parents much, yet you dare to ask your children to take care of you. If your children are happy to show filial piety, your parents will be grateful, otherwise we don't expect anything.

Now I see that I don't want too much, just enough to get by. Life is getting simpler and easier to operate. The pressure of making money and proving myself is over!

The female singer who claims to be "family-oriented" always portrays herself as a "banana fish passionately devoted to her children". In her successful singing career, she has received the companionship and strong support of her husband - musician Anh Quan and the Anh Em band, enough to establish a solid position and never "cool down" in the music industry. Along with that is the sweet fruit from children who are carefully raised by a mother who does not mind the hardships and the silent sacrifices behind by a father who is also a famous artist.

2024 can be said to be a bright and warm year for the Anh Quan - My Linh family as they witness their children gradually growing up and making their mark in the profession. While the youngest daughter My Anh decided to follow her mother's career and gradually establish her own position in the youth music industry, the eldest son Anh Duy chose to go his own way and will graduate with a medical degree in Australia next December.

In early October, Anna Truong (currently working for Igloo Music, a famous recording studio in the US, which has won 24 Grammy awards) had the opportunity to try her hand at two "huge" projects: taking on the role of sound engineer (with 2 colleagues) in the hit movie Joker: Folie à Deux, starring Lady Gaga, and another upcoming movie about the once-famous band Take That. Previously, Anna Truong was also the sound engineer behind many Disney soundtracks (dubbed in Vietnamese) such as Encanto, Frozen 2...

Have you ever rested on the laurels of your marriage?

In the first years of living together, my husband and I often argued, mostly due to personality conflicts. Because I was young and competitive at that time, I would always want to leave. Once, Anh Quan called me aside and said: "We can't leave each other, you can't teach Duy...". He just said that and suddenly I woke up. There was also a time when he said: "There are so many couples out there who have broken up, if we do the same, people will no longer have faith in marriage".

Gradually, I realized that marriage is a series of continuous patches and software updates. You need to be steadfast to preserve your personality, your life purpose, your attitude..., so as not to be mistaken, self-conscious, but also not to be overconfident, but also need to be bold to change when necessary, do not be stubborn and conservative, making yourself monotonous and old-fashioned...

Consumerists will probably not like the way I usually do things: I am a person who loves to… fix things. When something breaks at home, the first thing I think of is to find a way to fix it, rather than throwing it away and buying a replacement. Or like the recent storm, there were several big trees in my garden that fell down, so I need to save the trees rather than cut them down. Cutting them down is too easy, keeping them is!

How to keep the storm at bay?

To set sail, one needs the style of a captain. One must know the direction of the wind, know how to choose one's crew, and also know that the calmest moments may be the moment when a storm is about to strike.

In marriage, storms can come every day, there are problems that sometimes take a long time to solve, such as personality compatibility, life philosophy, habit adaptation... that most of us often do not realize, or do not want to admit.

If you want to avoid the storm, you should live a simple inner life, don't depend too much on things outside yourself; don't use too many words "must", "must be this, must be that" for me to be happy, to be satisfied...

How do you show your satisfaction with life?

I have a notebook called Thank Book - I learned this online, not something I came up with. In a life where our brains are often overloaded with negative information, that notebook is like a private place to help us recharge with small sources of positive energy. Every day, I write down 3 things that I am grateful for in this life (sometimes I forget, but I have never stopped being grateful for life).

I am grateful for the coffee my husband makes for me every morning. I am grateful for my bright friends who give me sound advice, when I need it most. I am grateful for my children who have grown up the way they wanted to. I am grateful for being me…

Source: https://thanhnien.vn/ca-si-my-linh-doi-so-chi-dep-cung-duoc-mien-khi-ve-nha-co-du-thu-minh-can-18524110217534792.htm