Just one piece of advice is enough to turn my life in a different direction.

Picky

My aunt is 59 years old this year, has never been married, now she lives alone, receives 7 million in pension every month, living a carefree life. After retirement, she no longer feels busy but excited like when she went to work, every day passes by alone going to the market to cook, going to the square to practice dancing, walking around the city. Almost every day is like that, like before, she sometimes went on trips with her old colleagues, now her feet often hurt, she rarely leaves the house.

I once asked her, repeating the same thing every day, isn't she afraid of being too bored and getting depressed? My aunt just sighed and said: "Everyone gets like that when they get old, if they get bored, they have to find something to do to relieve their boredom."

Why didn't my aunt get married? Because she was too picky, when she reached the age to get married she couldn't find a suitable partner, so she has been single ever since.

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Although my aunt was petite, her facial features were pretty and attractive. When she was young, she dressed very stylishly and fashionably. When I was little, I loved her cosmetics and clothes and shoes. I used to secretly apply rouge on my cheeks, put my tiny feet in towering high heels, and sway left and right to imitate her gait. When she was 30, she even took a photo shoot in a wedding dress herself, and was extremely beautiful.

Actually, my aunt was just a worker in a small factory, and her family had introduced her to potential partners, but some she found ugly, others lived too far away, and in the end none of the blind dates were successful. Many years later, I asked her if she regretted not getting married, and she just sighed helplessly: "What's the use of regretting? I can only blame myself for being young and not understanding."

Lack of parental care and advice

My father was almost the same, he didn’t meet my mother until he was 37, and I was born at 40, and in my parents’ time, single men and women of old age were considered “rare animals”, to put it bluntly, they were left behind. People like that were discriminated against a lot, especially women. I teased my father: “You were almost 40 then, and your daughter wasn’t married yet. It was good for the two of us to take care of each other, why did you suddenly want to get married?”

My father honestly replied: “When I was young, I loved to play, whenever I had time off from work, I would make plans to go out with my friends, not paying attention to love and marriage. Gradually, when I turned 30, I discovered that all my colleagues and friends around me were married and had children, and I couldn’t make plans to go out with anyone. Only then did I realize that I should also pay attention to my lifelong commitment, and I couldn’t be as playful as I was when I was young. Even my grandmother didn’t urge me, she just let me and my brother fly around freely. Now thinking back, if my grandmother had just given me a few words of advice back then, then the older brother wouldn’t have had a child until he was gray-haired, and the younger one wouldn’t have been married for the rest of his life.”

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I realized that perhaps the “not understanding” that my father and aunt talked about was actually “not being aware” that they had missed the best age to fall in love and get married, not understanding the impact of not having anyone to accompany them in old age. My grandmother was not very knowledgeable, she gave birth to 7 children and raised them all in a “free-range” manner, letting them grow up on their own. In the past, the environment was not as good as it is now, and she had many children, and every day she was busy earning a living to feed the family, so raising children to be tall and healthy was good enough, not to mention passing on life experiences so that her children would not go astray.

Although my father had children at the age of 40, and in his old age still had to take care of his children and could not rest, he was still lucky because he had his family by his side, together they endured difficulties. As for my aunt, she did not marry, she was lonely for many years, when she was young she suffered from the gossip of the world, when she was old she was alone, without children to take care of her, without a partner to be by her side, and unfortunately when she fell ill, it was even more difficult.

Sometimes I visit her, looking at the large but cold house, no laughter, only her there, her small and thin figure makes me feel sad forever. I know, my aunt regrets, regrets her capricious and difficult youth, even though she has heard stories of hardship and fatigue after marriage, loss of freedom, but life must think of the more distant future. Holding someone's hand and growing old together, when old age comes, the house is full of children and grandchildren, is also a seemingly simple happiness but many people wish for it.

Think carefully so you don't regret it.

After all, whether to get married or not, to have children or not, or whatever choice you make, before making a decision, you must think carefully, you must ask yourself whether you can accept the results of that choice. If you haven't thought it through, don't worry, as time passes, we learn more life experiences, maybe then we will have the right answer.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/u60-nghi-huu-luong-7-trieu-khong-chong-con-tung-oan-han-cha-me-chi-can-mot-loi-khuyen-la-du-dua-cuoc-doi-con-re-theo-huong-khac-17224052315442066.htm