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Sharing frankly and reconciling all problems in life helps preserve trust, love and family happiness. Photo: DUNG PHUONG

“One patience, nine virtues”

Ms. Kim Ngoc (living in Tan Phu district, Ho Chi Minh City) has a rather hot temper. Anything that is not right or not to her liking, in the family or even in society, she immediately "blows it out". However, she is also very loud and then stops, but in fact she is gentle, straightforward, the type of person who "wears her heart on her sleeve", says it and then lets it go, not holding it in. Understanding his wife, Mr. Phuong, her husband, is usually patient. When something happens, he lets her talk to get over her anger, waits for her to calm down before he slowly talks to her again.

To practice patience, Mr. Phuong also experienced many storms after one-on-one arguments with his wife. He remembered, a few years ago, when the house was too dilapidated, he discussed repairing and rebuilding. Ms. Ngoc did not agree because her finances were not good, she was afraid of unexpected expenses, and when there was a shortage, she did not know where to turn, and it was difficult to borrow from her parents. Mr. Phuong was frustrated with the house, so he insisted on calling the workers to finish it before the rainy season.

The couple argued fiercely, neither giving in. Ms. Ngoc was stressed about money, so she objected even more fiercely. In a fit of anger, unable to control herself, Mr. Phuong swung his arm and knocked over many things in the house, including a large glass vase, shattering it into pieces. Some of the broken pieces hit Ms. Ngoc's feet, and blood flowed onto the tiled floor. Ms. Ngoc's face turned pale, she looked at her husband and then at her feet. When Mr. Phuong regained his composure, he was equally panicked. He apologized to his wife, carried her outside, and quickly found a first aid kit to treat her wounds. After the incident, both of them were silent, no one wanted to talk, and the cold war lasted for more than a week...

After that “shocking” incident, Mr. Phuong changed his attitude and lived a more calm life. He confided: “Although the injuries were not serious, every time she wore shorts or a skirt, I could clearly see the scars left behind. That was enough for me to realize that I needed to change, care for and love her more, to bring joy, smiles and happiness to my wife and also to my small family. Luckily, the injuries were not serious, otherwise, I would probably regret it for the rest of my life.”

Care and share

Mr. Thong (living in District 10, Ho Chi Minh City) met Ms. Thu Trang (living in My Tho, Tien Giang ) when they were students. After 5 years of being in love, they officially got married. For more than 10 years, the couple has been together, sharing both the sweet and the bitter, as well as the hardships, from the time they started with nothing until the family's economy gradually stabilized.

His small family is always filled with laughter and the children's studying. Warm family meals are held regularly every day, when the couple and their children gather, ask questions, advise, and share life issues, helping the family atmosphere to be filled with positive energy for a more fulfilling married life. However, to achieve the stability it has today, the small house of Mr. Thong and Ms. Trang has also experienced many storms.

Mr. Thong remembers the first years together, life was still unstable, he went to work, and Ms. Trang had not found a job. At that time, Ms. Trang was pregnant with their first child. Mr. Thong's job at that time also had many obstacles, but he did not share anything with his wife: "I had to shoulder the financial burden, so I was under a lot of pressure, so whenever I felt sad, I went out drinking with friends, many nights "abandoned" her alone in the house where we had promised to always be together. Many times she grumbled, got angry, and blamed me, but I ignored it. The situation lasted for several months. My wife was sad and visibly lost her beauty. One day, before I went to work, she said she would go back to her mother's house. I started to think, feeling confused. I thought a lot, then told her to stay, and we would talk after work in the afternoon."

That afternoon, Mr. Thong and his wife had a gentle conversation, without a single loud word. He said: “We sat for several hours like that to confide all the problems of our current life, how to solve them step by step, what we need to do to improve our relationship, calculate the future for our children... And we felt like we had untied most of the knots in each other's hearts. Then she agreed to stay with me, giving us time to mend our family relationships, love and calculate the long-term future for our home.”

Married life always has many challenges in love, sacrifice, loyalty... Those challenges appear as catalysts to help the couple's feelings have happy and sad experiences to gradually mature, at the same time helping to promote the spirit of connection, sharing, caring, and loving each other.

In particular, whether a family is happy or not depends on the behavior of both husband and wife: they must know how to skillfully choose how to face, have understanding, respect, and compromise in solving family problems, turn personal ego into a common good, love... to overcome difficulties and challenges together, and strengthen family affection.

BAO LAM

Source: https://www.sggp.org.vn/com-soi-bot-lua-post796667.html