Gifts for children contain a lot of emotions, but also have great material value, how should parents respond?
Recently, the story of a female student in Hanoi who achieved an impressive high score on her high school graduation exam has attracted the attention of the online community. The score she achieved helps her to be able to enter the top prestigious universities in the country that recruit students from block D01.
The most sensational detail in this story is that the female student was given gold and money by relatives with a total value of up to hundreds of millions of dong.
A female student in Hanoi got high scores on her high school graduation exam and was immediately given lots of money and gold by her relatives (Illustration: iStock).
Because the story was accidentally shared online and had material aspects, the girl's family was quite hesitant to share it publicly. The family was worried that if they shared it improperly, they might encounter mixed reactions and be misunderstood as "showing off" or ostentatious.
However, the story of the female student in Hanoi shows a reality that is happening, which is that many students, after getting high scores on their graduation exams and being admitted to prestigious universities, are immediately given money and gold by their relatives, as a wish for good luck on their path to adulthood ahead.
Those material gifts contain a lot of love from relatives for the children.
The fact that some children receive hundreds of millions of VND in congratulatory money from relatives is a reality that has been and is appearing. Now that the child is of age, how should parents respond to the large sum of money that their relatives give them?
Regarding this, the mother of a female student in Hanoi shared her heartfelt thoughts. The mother was proud because her daughter took the D01 exam and achieved an impressively high score. She was one of the candidates with the highest score in literature in this year's high school graduation exam.
The mother said her daughter received gold from her grandparents and money from relatives. Because the child was an adult and had her own bank account, many relatives took the initiative to send congratulations and transfer money directly to her daughter's account.
Teaching children how to handle money is an important requirement that parents should not ignore (Illustration: iStock).
Every time someone gives her a gift, the female student proactively reports it to her parents, so that her parents can know and express their thanks and behave appropriately towards their relatives in the future. The gold given by her grandparents, the female student asks her parents to keep for her.
For the amount of money up to hundreds of millions given by relatives, I would like to take out an appropriate amount to spend on myself, buy personal items, and prepare for university admission.
I also asked my parents for permission to take out an equivalent amount to give to my younger brother to buy things he likes, and also to help my parents pay for my brother's school fees for the upcoming school year. I will save all the remaining money in the bank.
It is worth noting that this way of thinking and behaving is all done consciously by the daughter herself. For example, the female student knows to fully report to her parents about each amount of money she receives as a gift, then presents to her parents her intention to spend and save the large amount of money she receives as a gift.
Modern parents need to constantly learn to... be good parents.
The secret to raising children to have a good sense of money lies first in the family'seducational style. Since their children were young, the couple has helped them develop a sense of independence and self-awareness in everything from studying to daily activities.
This helps her children to have mature thinking and behavior early, and to have a sense of personal responsibility in all matters. Their behavior towards their family and those around them also becomes more mature and thoughtful.
Reading books can help teenagers grow up to be better adults (Illustration: iStock).
In addition, parents also skillfully nurture in their children a love for reading. There are many things parents cannot teach, but good books will be good friends to guide children on the journey to adulthood. When children read a lot and especially know how to choose good books to read, their souls and personalities will naturally become more beautiful and positive.
Furthermore, parents find that parenting is becoming increasingly difficult. Society is constantly changing, and children today are very different from before, due to the influence of technology and contemporary social life. Being a good parent today requires parents to understand their children's psychology, in order to have the best guidance and companionship.
Especially during the teenage years, when children have strong changes in psychology and outlook on life, parents need to have updated knowledge to raise their children.
Aware of this, the parent and her partner constantly read books about raising children. She even attended some parenting counseling classes.
Finally, she actively participated in many activities of the parent committee in her child's class, to have the opportunity to interact with many of her child's classmates, to understand the psychology of her child's peers.
According to her, it is important to let children feel loved and cared for by their parents, but there also needs to be enough distance so that children feel comfortable and free within the framework.
Too much attention can easily make children feel constrained, but a suitable distance will make the relationship between parents and children easier.
By doing so, parents can become their children's companions, trusted by them, sharing all their joys and sorrows, and all the problems they encounter.
The parent added that her husband is very busy with work, but he always spends at least 30 minutes a day talking to his children. In particular, he also has private conversations with each child to promptly grasp their thoughts and feelings. During conversations with their children, the couple absolutely do not ask about their grades.
Through the connection with teachers and schools, you can fully understand your child's learning without having to ask for grades from them.
While talking to your children, you only ask them about their physical and mental health, school, friends... Each conversation has only one purpose: to make them feel loved and cared for by their parents, and to have gentle and understanding parents.
Source: https://dantri.com.vn/giao-duc/dat-diem-cao-tot-nghiep-con-duoc-tang-tien-vang-cha-me-xu-ly-ra-sao-20250717153444272.htm
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