After middle age, I gradually realized: Every relationship has an 'expiration date', money

True sanity in middle age is allowing yourself to “lose” a relationship.

There is a topic on social media: Why do friends grow apart as they grow older?

Someone below said that after graduating, everyone got married, had children, lived thousands of kilometers apart, and gradually lost contact.

Some people say friends come to borrow money, do not lend, the next day blacklisted.

Another person said that when they shared their life with a friend, he saw it as showing off, and when they showed interest in them, they were met with ridicule.

Maturity is a bridge that gets narrower the more you walk on it, and the fewer people stay behind.

People with different life trajectories and values ​​will inevitably withdraw from your life.

Writer Mader once said: "Maturity is getting used to and taking lightly separation." True sanity in middle age is allowing yourself to "lose" a relationship.

Different environments, allowing for separation

A writer once said: "The farthest distance is when the person is still there, the love is still there but the way back is gone."

As time passes and different situations arise, each person's personality will gradually change. No matter how close friends are, if their choices differ, distance will be inevitable.

A had a very close friend, they had been friends since they were children. After graduating from high school, the friend went to the south to work, while A went to the north to study. During those years, the friend lived in a cramped rented house with a small salary and worked hard to make a living.

A entered a top university in the city and joined a scientific research company after graduation. The price of a single experimental material could be worth several months' salary. A rarely told his friend about his life for fear of upsetting him. But his friend felt that A had become more distant after becoming rich. Gradually, the two of them had less and less contact, and their childhood friendship also became distant.

People always have to wait until they experience it to understand that separation and loss are very normal things in life. Changes in distance and different circumstances will cause people who used to walk together to gradually lose contact with each other.

When I was in college, I also had a very close friend. For four years, we ate together, studied together, talked about literature together, and had the same dreams. After graduating, my friend returned to his hometown, got married, and had children. I went to the city to work hard, from an intern to a department manager.

At first, we still talked often, but she mainly talked about family matters, and I talked about work. We often had no common topics to talk about. Once I was interested in talking to her about literature, but she said that she hadn't read a book for a long time... Just like that, the frequency of our conversations gradually decreased until we didn't hear anything from each other anymore.

When we were young, we all dreamed of a relationship that would last forever. Only when we grew up, we realized that every relationship has its stages. The fading of many relationships is not because of someone's wrongdoing, but because each person chose a different path. As time passed, different environments and different pursuits were like an invisible wall separating us.

At the crossroads of life, we rarely reach the destination together. For those who are increasingly far apart, it is better to let nature take its course, each person living their own life, peacefully and freely.

Disagreement, no need to hold on

While scholar Liu Du was studying in America, he met a German girl. At first, the two were very close.

But soon after, Liu Yu began deliberately keeping her distance from the other person. The reason was that they frequently disagreed. The topics she brought up were not of interest to the other person.

Whenever she expressed her opinion on something, the other person would always try to argue back. Then, after an argument, the two completely ended their relationship.

A writer once said: "Three views, aesthetics and experience are the filters of life. No one can betray everything that belongs to them."

After middle age, the biggest gap between people is not distance but the difference in concept, in the way of thinking about problems. Although people with different views can walk together for a while, eventually, separation is inevitable.

Painters Wang Yuanding and Mu Xin were once close friends. But later, due to different views on the art of painting, the two became strangers. Mu Xin loved pigments when painting ink wash. Wang Yuanding studied traditional techniques and was adamant about not adding any pigments.

One day, Mu Xin showed off his ink paintings that used color. Wang Yuanding was also present. In front of everyone, he criticized Mu Xin, saying that color powder was a taboo in ink painting.

Mu Xin retorted, saying that since the Tang Dynasty, many paintings had been created using pigments. The two argued endlessly about this and eventually grew distant.

A few days later, Wang Yuanding was at a snack bar when Mu Xin happened to walk in, but neither of them paid any attention to the other. Their years-long relationship had fractured due to differences in their artistic vision.

Some say that values ​​determine the upper limit of a relationship. Two people with opposing views are like two intersecting lines, as their differences grow larger, they will eventually drift apart.

In human interaction, personalities can be compatible, but opinions, ways of thinking, and perspectives on problems are often not easy to reconcile. After middle age, stop explaining, respect each other, accept that both have differences, that is the most honorable farewell.

A painter once said: "When I was little, I always thought that if we were friends, we would always be friends. Only when I grew up did I understand that there is no eternity between people; being able to walk together for a while is already a very heartwarming thing."

Some people can only accompany you for a while, some relationships will soon disappear from your life.

After middle age, you should learn to calmly deal with relationships that are destined to be lost, stay or go, follow nature, gather and disperse, depending on people's wishes.

Allowing people in your life to come and go, taking lightly the uncertainty of every encounter, that is the most sober way for middle-aged people to live.

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