Actress Thanh Thuy said she put all her work aside to take care of her second child who has ADHD and can only babble a few words at the age of 5.
After a period of not participating much in the entertainment industry, director Duc Thinh and his wife - actress Thanh Thuy - revealed their life in the past time when their second son could not speak even though he was five years old. Thanh Thuy had a chat to talk about the process of accompanying her child.
- You have been away from the entertainment industry for two years, how is your life now?
- I am busy taking care of my family, children, managing an art training center for children as well as developing a personal brand for adults. However, I am looking for a replacement for the director position, handing over the work to them so that I can spend all my time taking care of Tet - my second son. My child has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, at the age of five he only babbles a few words, and needs close supervision from his parents.
When Tet was three years old, I sent my child to a kindergarten. After a few lessons, I saw that he was not like other children, not happy when his mother came to pick him up. He just liked to sit and play in class and did not want to go home. Then I took him to get checked, the doctor said that Tet had attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. I was really "shocked" at that time because before that I thought my child developed very normally.
Duc Thinh and I went to many places to find treatment for our child but still saw no signs of improvement. After a few months, we both decided to send our child to a school for special children. It was a very difficult time for my family.
Thanh Thuy's second son is now 5 years old and can only say a few words. Video : Character provided
- How did you get through the baby care period?
- When my child was sick, I only thought about how to focus on taking care of my child. In the beginning, Tet stayed at home without interacting with anyone in the family, just sitting and playing alone. At night, the child woke up constantly and cried. Many nights, I had to stay up all night holding the child and comforting him. Lack of sleep also made me irritable and upset, affecting the family atmosphere. It took a year for Tet to get a good night's sleep. I hired someone to help with housework, babysitting and teaching the child. When I had to go out to solve something, Duc Thinh took my place to look after the child.
The whole family also moved from Binh Thanh District to Binh Chanh District to be closer to the school for Tet, convenient for pick-up and drop-off as well as a better environment. However, this only helped to some extent. Most importantly, Duc Thinh and I had to sit down, research and find a specific treatment regimen for the baby.
Thanh Thuy with her second son - Cu Tet. Photo: Provided by the character
- How do you improve your child's condition?
- Currently, Tet interacts with people more than before. When playing, he likes to sit close to his mother or hug me tightly when sleeping, there is no distance. He can pronounce the letters o, u, e and only says one word "dad". To achieve these things is thanks to the effort of spending time as well as playing and teaching children the right method. I have a notebook that records the detailed schedule for Tet's playing, studying, and sleeping every day. For example, this week I will teach my child to recognize body parts, next week how to go to the toilet, bathe, and dress. I do not use the phone when I am with my child. I also put away all the toys, leaving only three, training my child to concentrate. In addition, I put my child's toys high up, so when he cannot get them, he has to ask for help. From then on, Tet is forced to communicate more.
- What helped you get through the difficult times?
- I told myself that I was not allowed to be weak, but I could not avoid sadness. I prayed to God and believed that my child would recover, from then on my mind was at peace and I accepted the situation, fighting with Tet. My eldest son, Ca Phe, 15 years old, understood, saw that his mother took care of his younger brother more than him, but he never complained. Even after finishing his homework, he asked his mother if she needed any help.
When I am with my children, I feel my life is better. Before, I was too busy with work and did not fully enjoy the happy moments with my children. Now I feel that family life is closer and more peaceful.
Thanh Thuy - Duc Thinh's family. Photo: Provided by the character
- How do you and your husband share the pressure in life?
- Regarding taking care of the house, my children play the main role, Duc Thinh supports when he is not busy with film projects or filming. When he sees that Cu Tet is not developing like normal children, my husband constantly encourages and comforts me mentally, that is enough for me. I think in the family there must be a clear division of responsibilities for each member so that everyone does not feel pressured.
Economically , we rarely care about who will earn money. Husband and wife are a swap, maybe today I earn a lot of money but tomorrow it will be Duc Thinh. Women are the key to the money, so he always lets me decide everything about finances . My husband and I also have an additional source of income from renting out our house.
Thanh Thuy married Duc Thinh in 2008. Their first son is Thien Phuc, nicknamed Ca Phe. In 2014, the couple opened a film production company, producing works such as: Ma Dai, Anh Thay Ngoi Sao, Trang Quynh. Duc Thinh is the director, Thanh Thuy is the producer. The actress gave birth to her second son in 2019.
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