Sharing the story of a wife contributing 50-50 money to a couple has caused heated debate among women on a group.
The wife said that when they first got married, they often argued about money. She often complained that her husband bought expensive and wasteful things. In response, her husband pointed out the things she spent lavishly. Every time they argued, she took a screenshot of her spending list and sent it to her husband.
When she got pregnant, the spending war intensified. She became sensitive to arguments and often cried. They agreed that this situation was not good. They decided to sit down and discuss contributing to the common fund using spending apps.
When she is pregnant, the contribution ratio will be 70% for the husband and 30% for the wife. The rest of the time, it will be divided 50-50, meaning if each month they spend 10 million VND, each person will contribute 5 million VND.
“We agreed that the money would be paid to me. I would divide the money into small amounts with clear names and amounts, and then just spend it like that.”
Every time one of us spends something, a message is sent to both of our phones, and we can just open the app and see all our previous spending. “I call it respecting each other’s ‘right to know’. My husband and I both have our own money, and we can do whatever we want, so every holiday, I get a gift. When my husband is poor, he treats me to a meal and a cup of milk tea, and when he’s rich, he gives me a more expensive gift. On my last birthday, he bought me a laptop, which made me feel very warm and happy.”
The wife said that thanks to this "clear" way of contributing and spending money, she also felt relieved when he spent money on things he liked but she didn't like.
Many young couples choose to divide financial responsibilities very clearly, without the wife keeping all of her husband's income. Illustration: Vista Create
Her post immediately attracted hundreds of comments, mostly from married women. Opinions were clearly divided into two camps – those who thought this was a fair and civilized way of spending money for many modern couples, while those who criticized the couple’s rigidity and lack of trust in each other.
A woman frankly commented: “Dividing like this is like contributing rice to raise a child together. My point of view is that a husband who works should give most of his money to his wife, keeping only enough for personal expenses. He can’t possibly earn 30 million but only contribute 15 million, and spend the remaining 15 million on his own. Doing so is no different from being friends.”
She also added: “Many people are also strange, thinking that if you give all your money to your wife, you won’t have any money left. When the husband needs something, doesn’t the wife give it to him to spend? Does the wife keep a secret fund to spend alone?”
Ms. Vy Nguyen shared that her family also has “one source of income”. The husband mostly gives his salary to his wife, only keeping enough for monthly expenses, if anything comes up, the wife gives more. “I don’t like the 50-50 model. The important thing is that husband and wife must trust each other, because if you give money and don’t trust the other half, it’s also very tiring.”
Another wife's opinion received 65 "likes": "I'm imbued with my mother's ideology, so I never contribute money like that. My mother keeps money and weighs and measures it, and my father has no need to keep money either. As soon as he gets the money, he runs straight home to give it to his wife without even checking how much it is. So choose a husband with someone like my father, to avoid arguing."
On the contrary, there are wives who are happy and satisfied with not managing all of their husbands' finances . The two will contribute a certain percentage to the common fund depending on each person's income. The rest, each person manages and spends on their own. There are also families that do not have a common fund but have a clear division: The husband pays for school fees, electricity and water, and hires a maid; the wife takes care of shopping, clothes, and travel.
“In our family, the husband’s money is for investment, the wife’s money is for raising the children. If the wife is short, she asks the husband to give her more. My husband and I never pay attention to how much money the other person has and who spends more or less. But we both take the initiative to share with each other how much I have and how much he has” – Ms. Thu Ha shared the story of her family’s financial contributions.
Ms. Trang Pham said that she agreed with the wife's point of view. She believes that each family has its own situation, and each family will have a different way of sharing responsibilities, "as long as both feel respected, no one feels abandoned, that's fine."
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/vo-chong-tien-ai-nay-tieu-gop-quy-chung-50-50-cac-me-ran-ran-tranh-cai-172240531143932895.htm
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