On the internet, someone asked the question: Should adults give money to their parents after going to work?
It is natural for children to be filial to their parents. But how much money should you give, how should you give it, when should you give it, so that when you give it, you feel happy, your parents are touched by the amount of money you receive, and the whole family is happy?
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For families with average or normal income, you should not give money to your parents.
Your economy is average. Your parents do not have a pension, do not have a stable job, and earn a living by doing odd jobs. But your parents are still young and in good health. For such a family, it is not advisable to give money to your parents every month, it is best to give money every six months or once a year.
You give 1-2 million every month, it will not really make the family rich. It will also make parents feel that they have a fixed monthly income, which will lead to laziness, procrastination, lack of initiative in work, even not going to work, not making progress, just enjoying life.
The bottom line is that parents are still young, far from retirement age. If they do not save their pension for themselves, they will have the mentality of expecting their children to provide for them. This will not only make the family economy more difficult but also affect the children.
If you only give 1-2 million VND a month, your parents will probably feel that the amount is too little! But if you save 1-2 million VND a month and give 12-24 million VND at the end of the year, your parents will feel that you give them a lot, earning money is not easy but you always set aside some money for them.
Not only does it show your filial piety, it also makes your parents feel that their child is a promising child. Parents are also motivated to work in normal times. So, in general, limit giving money to your parents. That small amount is just a drop in the bucket and cannot solve any real problems.
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Don't give your salary card to your parents.
If you are the eldest child in the family and the only one working, the other siblings are still in school, then don't give too much money to your parents.
I have seen many new employees, especially girls, give their salary cards to their parents, thinking that their mothers can save money for them because they themselves cannot. When they are 30 years old, they get married and ask their parents about that money but only get one answer: That is the family's money, and they have to save it to buy a house for their younger brother.
Your money becomes your family's money. Everyone in the family can use the money except you.
Giving money to your parents is inherently trusting and fun, and using it to buy something for your family is not a problem. But if your parents do not acknowledge that it is your money, they will take all the money you have earned after nearly 10 years of hard work and make it their own and give it to your siblings, such a case has not happened before.
Don't let money become the cause of rifts between family members. Keep both your salary card and your money. During the holidays, just buy furniture for the house, give money to your parents, buy gifts for your parents and siblings, that's enough.
So if there are many siblings working in the family, some of whom are married, what should be done? Then sit down and discuss. Usually the eldest sibling will be the one to speak up, if the other family members follow suit, then so be it.
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Modest, not boastful, filial within one's ability
Even with your parents, your assets should not be explained too clearly. If you have a lot of money and let your parents know, no matter how much you give them, they will think that the amount is small. If you measure everything by money, sooner or later your family relationship will dry up.
Don't give money to your parents too often, if you give too much and too often, it will become a natural thing. When one day they suddenly don't receive the money, you will be complained about.
For parents, when facing urgent difficulties, it is necessary to give money, being filial during the holidays is also the right thing to do. If you can, give your parents an extra sum at the end of the year.
Don't give money reluctantly just to satisfy your family's vanity. If you can afford it, give more, if not, stop.
Do what you can, ensure your own life first and then be filial to your parents, then both the giver and the receiver will be happy.
Don't consider "regularly giving money to your parents" as too rigid a goal. Because any dissatisfaction and tension over time will be amplified, turning good things into bad things, contrary to the original meaning of filial piety.
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